I will contact UKBA and ask about the restraining order. Thankfully the attorney mailed me the documents so I can add those to the application if needed.
I don't think UKVI will be able to help you regarding the restraining order (they are not known for giving accurate advice).
I meant that you should find out from a lawyer whether or not it is considered a criminal conviction or civil judgement (or whatever) - it's about determining what it is considered under UK criminal law, not UK immigration law.
Do we need to enclose any pictures of us together like in the marriage visa?
Not really, but you can bring one if you like. As you will be applying in person and you both have to be there, they can ask you about your relationship there if they need to.
I think the only issue so far is the mail with our names on it. I have very little of official documents addressed to me and we only have two joint things - a bank statement and council tax bill. I've found it has been impossible to get my name added to any bill with my husband here. We tried 7 months to get orange to add it... Yep, they'll do it. Call again next month etc. etc. Same issue with Virgin which we get internet from. To this day neither have added my name. I don't understand it.
You MUST have the required documents - the ILR will be refused without all of them. The list of acceptable documents is on the SET(M) form.
You need to have at least 3 different sources and so if you have 2 joint bank statements and 2 joint council tax bills from the last 2 years, then that's 4 of your 6 documents right there.
Do you have a tenancy agreement with both your names on? That could be document number 5 of 6 and then you would just need 1 more each.
Or if you don't have a tenancy agreement to use, you could use a Virgin bill and an Orange bill for your husband's 2 other documents, and you just need 2 in your name from the last 2 years...they can be from a variety of sources - your bank account, DVLA, NHS, HMRC, mobile phone bill - they are all listed on the application.
So, say you have been here from November 2012 to November 2014, you could use, for example:
November 2012: Joint tenancy agreement
March 2013: Joint bank statement
July 2013: Joint council tax bill
November 2013: Virgin bill in his name, plus one letter in your name
March 2014: Joint bank statement
July 2014: Joint council tax bill
(November 2014: Another 1 or 2 documents - but that makes 7 each, so you wouldn't technically need them)
...and that's all your documents right there.
Of course, those are only estimated dates - it depends what you have and when they are dated as to what you include. They should be spread approximately evenly over the 2 years and if you have separate documents, they should be dated around the same time (i.e. his Virgin bill and your document should be dated the same month).