Ok, not literally but they are acting like I'm leaving them for this charmed life in England. My grandmother (who has actually been very verbally abusive lately) yelled at me a couple months ago, "Well all you have to worry about it just getting to England then all your problems are gone!" As if I don't have to worry about 1. I was 80% through with university over here and I have to give it all up because my credits won't transfer and accounting is very different between the two countries, 2. Alex barely makes enough to pay the 900/month rent around London then have enough money to pay for his rail card, counsel tax and other utilities, our food, and student loan payments on my now useless near-degree, 3. We cannot find a dog friendly flat that is under 2000/ month, 4. I have to now find a job with no degree in a country I've spent a total of 5 months in!
The list could go on but you get the idea. Alex and I got married last week, he spent all this money just to come elope with me for the sake of the visa and all my grandfather had to say was, "Very good, maybe now you can stop whining." He posted that on the photos of my impromptu wedding on Facebook! I have posted on facebook twice in the last four months in regards to my situation, hardly "whining". Not to mention I haven't seen my grandfather or spoken to him in about 5 years.
Then when I was distraught over the first visa rejection I told my friend that I wanted to go home. She replied, "But this is your home, don't be silly, this will always be your home. " No this isn't my home anymore. My husband and fur-babies are 3000 miles away. My home is where they are and it kills me to not be with them.
I wish I could explain to my friends and family that this is not a fairy tale, I do NOT live a charmed life, and I am truly sorry for overstaying my welcome while my visa gets bungled/ more f-ed up by the day, but I want more than anything just to go home. I understand it is cool for people from the States to visit London and it is a blessing to be able to vacation halfway across the world but I am not on vacation! I am fighting tooth and nail to be with my husband whom I would follow to the ends of the earth.
His family has been amazingly supportive and offer help on a regular basis but mine is so selfish and self serving. Sorry for the anger but did anyone else get this from their friends and family when they moved to England?