Genuinely my heart aches for you. That is absolute crap! I am sorry you have to deal with that.... Were they always like this or have you always been close and they've only started acting this way since you announced your move? If it's only since announcing your move, I agree that it has to be some sort of denial or unhappy realization that you won't be around anymore like you were before [which is quite selfish - but somewhat understandable to a degree even though they should not be putting that on you].
As you mentioned, you don't want to be a person that ends up bitter thinking "what if" because that is an even worse place to be! You can always fly home to visit [or permanently if you decide it's not the place for you, although that is expensive], or pitch it like I did as a "now you have a new place to come visit for a reason!" but you can't undo choices you've never made... I bet they don't even realize that their behavior is actually pushing you further away and if I were in your situation I would be thinking "of course I want to go! you aren't making it very appealing to stay!" but that is just me...
You're so right. They aren't making feel like I'm going to miss them. I know I will when the time comes to leave because I know me. But right now, I mostly just feel angry and hurt. I talked to my mother since my first post on this and laid right out on the line that I feel like a pariah, no one ever calls to see how I'm doing or ask if they can help or just check that I'm still alive.
Have they always been like that... well no, we used to be very close all of us. It had changed some as we got into our 20's and 30's but still we were close. My mother and father were never ones to call me though. I always went to see them. So that's nothing new. I just don't do that anymore. I got tired of being the one making all the phone calls and all the effort.
I was married before and everyone loved my ex-husband. In fact all of them are friends with him on Facebook
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Just for the record I have no ill-will toward my ex but clearly we didn't stay married so there were definite problems. My mother, to this day will say "I miss Jeff so much" so, I bet you can guess where this is going? They have always been cordial to my husband but deep down in my heart I am sure they do not like him, so over the last 9 years we've been living here in Kentucky together my family has definitely been more an more distant. He is nothing like my ex which is why after 13 years together we are still together. My ex was the life of the party, huge sports fan (I HATE sports) always joking, silly and never serious, got us into huge financial trouble and drank too much but, they love him. They weren't married to him! My current husband is much more cerebral and serious. And of course as so many on here have said the British sense of humor is quite different. (I'm a huge fan, but my family really doesn't get it) We have so much more in common than I had with my ex and I am much happier with him and that is all that really matters. And if they are going to make me choose in their passive aggressive way, well, guess what? I choose him.