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Re: Question about bringing my 27 yr old autistic son over from america
« Reply #15 on: July 06, 2016, 11:56:32 AM »
All those situations are horrible, but I can't help but think about the people fleeing Syria, sitting in a miserable camp in Calais.  I bet many would happily settle for any of our problems.

I by no means was trying to compare the two situations. I'm not sure you really can. They are on completely different playing fields. That would be more similar to me saying "I'm really short on money this month as my expenses were really high (mortgage,bills,visa,boiler broke,etc.)"and feeling a bit defeated for not having much extra money for groceries etc. and then saying that I should be happy about it because there are starving and homeless people in our country that would be happy to be where I am. Of course that is a FAR worse situation to be in and I am thankful everyday that I am not in that situation, but I would never sit and compare my situation to theirs nor do I think it's not okay to think about how frustrating a situation you're in may be just because there is somebody who is worse off. 99% of the time there will always be somebody more worse off than you that would gladly trade places and I would never try to minimize that or compare my very comfortable life with theirs. I was just stating that this is one struggle an expat may realistically face in their lifetime and it's sad to think about - especially if you're close with your family.

Apologies if it came off in some way that I was making this situation anywhere near as bad as somebody living in a refugee camp. I definitely would take my situation over their's any day.
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Re: Question about bringing my 27 yr old autistic son over from america
« Reply #16 on: July 06, 2016, 01:26:40 PM »

Apologies if it came off in some way that I was making this situation anywhere near as bad as somebody living in a refugee camp. I definitely would take my situation over their's any day.

No, you aren't the one who needs to apologise, it was a stupid place for me to say something like that.  Even though I didn't mean to minimise other people's troubles, it certainly came across that way.  Sorry if I made you guys who posted feel bad.


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Question about bringing my 27 yr old autistic son over from america
« Reply #17 on: July 06, 2016, 01:28:37 PM »
No, you aren't the one who needs to apologise, it was a stupid place for me to say something like that.  Even though I didn't mean to minimise other people's troubles, it certainly came across that way.  Sorry if I made you guys who posted feel bad.
Oh! Don't apologise! I just wanted to make It clear that I was in no way comparing he two :)
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* Married in the US and applied for first spousal visa August 2013
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* ILR applied for January 2019 (using priority processing). Approved February 2019.
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* Ceremony conducted on August 28th 2019

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Re: Question about bringing my 27 yr old autistic son over from america
« Reply #18 on: July 06, 2016, 02:01:06 PM »
I just donated some money to the Red Cross Europe Refugee Crisis Appeal as penance.


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Re: Question about bringing my 27 yr old autistic son over from america
« Reply #19 on: July 06, 2016, 06:06:14 PM »
It's actually a big issue with us lefties. There was recently a scathing article in the New Statesman by a developing world activist skewering the idea that we call ourselves proletariat.

I just hope that more people will ignore the fatalism of the argument that we are beyond repair. We are not beyond repair. We are never beyond repair. - AOC


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