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How did you meet your significant other?
« on: August 30, 2018, 07:18:13 PM »
As I see all of these wonderful future British residents, I'm curious: How did you guys meet your British spouse/future spouse?

Me and Tom met in 2012 via Skype through a mutual friend. I liked his accent so she introduced us, but we actually hit it off!! He added me on Facebook, (allegedly because he "thought I was cute")  :P and that was pretty much it for a couple years. We were just friends, and we occasionally Skyped or messaged, but that was it. In Summer 2015 we Skyped for the first time in a while, but it lasted for 4 hours!! That led to me downloading WhatsApp, and then we started chatting everyday. I found myself falling for him...but we hadn't met! It was so weird to like someone in a romantic way when you hadn't even met them. I told him how I felt, and he eventually said the same. Then the big "what now" conversation happened. I bought a plane ticket and spent Christmas 2015 with him and his family, and we started dating long distance right after that!!! After finishing up graduate school...getting engaged, waiting a year to meet the financial requirement and getting hitched in the US I am finally moving to the UK to join him!!! Our big wedding is 13 October <3

Why did you guys choose to move to the UK instead of the other way around? In my case, I'd always wanted to live in the UK. I'm a historian and British/ancient history is my absolute favorite. When the conversation came up, it wasn't much of a decision. It was always going to be me. I CAN'T WAIT!

What about you guys? I've seen some of ya'lls stories, but I love hearing how these relationships blossom, since they're rather rare in the bigger scheme of things!

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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #1 on: August 30, 2018, 07:40:02 PM »
Speed dating!

Three minutes really IS all it takes.   ;)

I was already living and working in the UK (this was my stepping stone to my dream assignment in China).

I’m no longer moving to China.   :)


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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #2 on: August 30, 2018, 07:55:47 PM »
We met in a chat room. My username was at the top of the list and hubby started chatting to me. Then right after September 11th we started using instant messenger and having long phone chats. He invited me over for Christmas in Paris but I was too cautious to accept but what an offer !! Then we flew back and forth a few times. I moved to the uk cuz hubby had a really good job and I was in college at the time so I transferred to a uk university. We got married quickly after knowing each other for a year and it’s now 16 years later. We honeymooned in Paris so I got my romantic trip to Paris after all !!
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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #3 on: August 30, 2018, 08:42:25 PM »
We met when I came on vacation to England with a friend. He was the person we were staying with (friends family friend) roommate.

Long story short we fell madly in love despite fighting it for a bit because of the distance.

I moved here because he has a daughter from a previous relationship. Her mum has since lost her battle with cancer so we potentially move back to the states but we’re just getting settled now ( finally after being here nearly three years).

I do miss my family back home, but I honestly can’t think of anything worse than another international move etc.


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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #4 on: August 30, 2018, 09:53:09 PM »
I love playing Words With Friends but I usually don't play with strangers. I tend to just play against my mom and a few friends. Well, one day this random guys requests a game with me. I almost told him "no" but I think I needed extra points to meet a weekly challenge or something... plus I'm super competitive. His profile picture looked harmless enough - it was a pic of him and his daughter. So, I threw out my rules and accepted the game.

Minutes later I received a message from him through the chat function within the game. The message was something like "Hey, gorgeous girl!" Ewwww. What have I gotten myself into? But being the polite-to-a-fault human that I am I just went along with it knowing that once I kicked his ass in the game, I could be done with him.

Cut to me obliterating him and saying "well, it's been nice playing with you." I had no plans of starting another game with him. But whaddya know?! He started another one with me. Ugh. So we chatted a bit more and I started thinking "this guys is kinda nice." We seemed to have quite a bit in common. We kept on playing, game after game. This went on for a couple days, playing and chatting. Next thing you know, he's asking me to Skype. I agreed.

We just couldn't get enough of each other. But I didn't think he was being all serious. I also knew that he was in the dating game so there were probably other girls. But he kept telling me how he felt about me and how serious he was. So I called his bluff. I told him that if he was serious, he'd fly to America to meet me in person. He said, "Done." And two days later he emailed his itinerary to me.

Only three weeks after we started playing WWF and chatting, he was coming to America to see me! We hit it off totally. And then about a month after that, I was on my way to England for the first time to see him.

The rest, they say, is history!
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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #5 on: August 31, 2018, 03:54:15 AM »
I love playing Words With Friends but I usually don't play with strangers. I tend to just play against my mom and a few friends. Well, one day this random guys requests a game with me. I almost told him "no" but I think I needed extra points to meet a weekly challenge or something... plus I'm super competitive. His profile picture looked harmless enough - it was a pic of him and his daughter. So, I threw out my rules and accepted the game.

Minutes later I received a message from him through the chat function within the game. The message was something like "Hey, gorgeous girl!" Ewwww. What have I gotten myself into? But being the polite-to-a-fault human that I am I just went along with it knowing that once I kicked his ass in the game, I could be done with him.

Cut to me obliterating him and saying "well, it's been nice playing with you." I had no plans of starting another game with him. But whaddya know?! He started another one with me. Ugh. So we chatted a bit more and I started thinking "this guys is kinda nice." We seemed to have quite a bit in common. We kept on playing, game after game. This went on for a couple days, playing and chatting. Next thing you know, he's asking me to Skype. I agreed.

We just couldn't get enough of each other. But I didn't think he was being all serious. I also knew that he was in the dating game so there were probably other girls. But he kept telling me how he felt about me and how serious he was. So I called his bluff. I told him that if he was serious, he'd fly to America to meet me in person. He said, "Done." And two days later he emailed his itinerary to me.

Only three weeks after we started playing WWF and chatting, he was coming to America to see me! We hit it off totally. And then about a month after that, I was on my way to England for the first time to see him.

The rest, they say, is history!
This is a great story! I love it!


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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #6 on: August 31, 2018, 03:59:35 AM »
There was a family that I used to be a nanny for when they lived in America and they moved back to England as the dad is British. So I went to visit them there and their new nanny invited me to go to London with her for the day. I agreed having never been and she showed up with her older brother. So I spent the day in London with her and her older brother who was very attentive to me and I wasn’t too interested cuz I wasn’t looking for anything. The next day we hung out again and he expressed wanting to stay in touch when I went home. By then of course I had started to think “this guy is super sweet and I haven’t met anyone like him before.” I left the day after and we began our long distance journey that lasted three years (traveling back and forth to visit) before we got married this year! 


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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #7 on: August 31, 2018, 10:40:39 AM »
December 2015. YouTube lol. We both followed a gamer who was doing live streams. I never usually am involved in the chat but that day I started talking. I spoke with several people in it and they invited me to their Skype chat. I mainly spoke to 4-5 people and we all decided to play a game together. Cards against humanity. I didn’t have a mic yet so only a couple of people voice chatted and the rest of us typed. The first time I heard his voice I was surprised and intrigued. I thought how cool to potentially get to be friends with someone all the way in Scotland. I had no clue what was in store for me lol.

We struck up a conversation in the main chat. A few days later, I got a mic and we started our own chat. Then we started video chatting. I fell hard and he did too. Our conversations were 10-12 hours long. Every day that I was off work. We became bf/gf a few days after Christmas and the i love yous started early. Two months later we agreed to meet in person. We wanted to see if it was as real in person. I flew over and the moment I saw him and he saw me in Edinburgh airport..that was it. We spent a week together seeing sights and getting to know each other.

From then on, ever 3 months we flew to see each other. Engaged August 2017. Married Feb 2018.  ;D
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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #8 on: August 31, 2018, 12:26:38 PM »
I think I've told this story somewhere on here before, but I won't bother going to look for it....

In the summer after I finished my graduate studies, I was trying to find a job, and this meant lots of phone calls.  I'd been away for school, then moved back into my parents' home while I searched, because I was looking all over the US and didn't want to get established somewhere only to have to move again when I found my dream job.  Meanwhile, my parents changed their internet/phone provider, and my mother kept complaining about line noise, and poor quality calls.  So when I was trying to coordinate interviews and actually conducting phone-based interviews for some jobs, I attributed my inability to hear the other end to the "line noise".  It turns out, my mother was complaining about something incredibly trivial, and in my case, I had a brain tumor impinging on my 8th cranial nerve.  I discovered this a week after I started my job as an administrative law judge, where I'd be conducting administrative appeals primarily over the phone.  Shakespeare wrote my life.

Anyway, I joined an online support group, researched, had surgery, made some friends, etc.  Everything turned out okay in the end (except I am still half deaf... nerve damage doesn't usually get better).

Nearly ten years later, I was still in contact with one of my "tumor people" friends, and after more than a few mutual exchanges on his Facebook posts, the friend suggested I add his son ("Ah-hah!  So that's who that guy is!") as a friend because he thought we'd have a lot to talk about.  So I added him.  At first, I thought he had a very serious but long-distance girlfriend (because she friended me right after I added my now-husband and asked how I knew him and told me that they were in a very serious long-distance relationship... I didn't really know him, so I believed her), so I was friendly but didn't get too friendly, if you know what I mean.  Anyway, eventually, he found out she'd told me that, we all cleared the air, they are no longer friends (in fact, my now-husband isn't even on Facebook anymore), and he and I ended up married and living in England (now Wales).  Whee!

Edited to add:  I chose to move to him, rather than the other way around, because he was employed, and by then, I was living a very frugal life on a pension and didn't need to be based in any particular location.  But looking at cost of living, and the employment market, more than once (in the early days), I would think how much easier it would be if we lived in the US.  But, for political reasons, I'm glad we're over here now.
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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #9 on: August 31, 2018, 02:30:18 PM »
December 2015. YouTube lol. We both followed a gamer who was doing live streams. I never usually am involved in the chat but that day I started talking. I spoke with several people in it and they invited me to their Skype chat. I mainly spoke to 4-5 people and we all decided to play a game together. Cards against humanity. I didn’t have a mic yet so only a couple of people voice chatted and the rest of us typed. The first time I heard his voice I was surprised and intrigued. I thought how cool to potentially get to be friends with someone all the way in Scotland. I had no clue what was in store for me lol.

We struck up a conversation in the main chat. A few days later, I got a mic and we started our own chat. Then we started video chatting. I fell hard and he did too. Our conversations were 10-12 hours long. Every day that I was off work. We became bf/gf a few days after Christmas and the i love yous started early. Two months later we agreed to meet in person. We wanted to see if it was as real in person. I flew over and the moment I saw him and he saw me in Edinburgh airport..that was it. We spent a week together seeing sights and getting to know each other.

From then on, ever 3 months we flew to see each other. Engaged August 2017. Married Feb 2018.  ;D

 I'm a hopeless romantic and I just love this!
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Re: How did you meet your significant other?
« Reply #10 on: August 31, 2018, 05:15:18 PM »
I think I've told this story somewhere on here before, but I won't bother going to look for it....

In the summer after I finished my graduate studies, I was trying to find a job, and this meant lots of phone calls.  I'd been away for school, then moved back into my parents' home while I searched, because I was looking all over the US and didn't want to get established somewhere only to have to move again when I found my dream job.  Meanwhile, my parents changed their internet/phone provider, and my mother kept complaining about line noise, and poor quality calls.  So when I was trying to coordinate interviews and actually conducting phone-based interviews for some jobs, I attributed my inability to hear the other end to the "line noise".  It turns out, my mother was complaining about something incredibly trivial, and in my case, I had a brain tumor impinging on my 8th cranial nerve.  I discovered this a week after I started my job as an administrative law judge, where I'd be conducting administrative appeals primarily over the phone.  Shakespeare wrote my life.

Anyway, I joined an online support group, researched, had surgery, made some friends, etc.  Everything turned out okay in the end (except I am still half deaf... nerve damage doesn't usually get better).

Nearly ten years later, I was still in contact with one of my "tumor people" friends, and after more than a few mutual exchanges on his Facebook posts, the friend suggested I add his son ("Ah-hah!  So that's who that guy is!") as a friend because he thought we'd have a lot to talk about.  So I added him.  At first, I thought he had a very serious but long-distance girlfriend (because she friended me right after I added my now-husband and asked how I knew him and told me that they were in a very serious long-distance relationship... I didn't really know him, so I believed her), so I was friendly but didn't get too friendly, if you know what I mean.  Anyway, eventually, he found out she'd told me that, we all cleared the air, they are no longer friends (in fact, my now-husband isn't even on Facebook anymore), and he and I ended up married and living in England (now Wales).  Whee!

Edited to add:  I chose to move to him, rather than the other way around, because he was employed, and by then, I was living a very frugal life on a pension and didn't need to be based in any particular location.  But looking at cost of living, and the employment market, more than once (in the early days), I would think how much easier it would be if we lived in the US.  But, for political reasons, I'm glad we're over here now.

The mysterious James! Can't wait to meet him!
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