Thanks guys, you have been very informative.
Might I ask:
For Britwife: When I (she) applies to the embassy in DC, would she apply for FLR or ILE then? I am a little confused as to what is applied for and when? Would she apply for settlement and ILE (as we will have been married almost 6 years by then), or is the ILE stamped in her passport at Gatwick?
Does the embassy really care if you put down you are going to stay with a relative for the first few weeks or do they prefer you get a place of your own?
We will be taking maybe £50,000 for a deposit on a house and obviously don't want to be rushed into getting a place.
Thanks for all the great advice, I really appreciate it!
Cheers,
MH