Its been a struggle

I just moved here a week ago, and I am missing home really bad, I am sure this is common.  It will probably take me a good month or so to settle in and realize that I am living in another country.  Its funny, I am already appreciating all the nice things America has to offer, we are so spoiled.  It opens an American's eyes how great we have it until we live in a foreign country.

I started my new job, people are nice, but connecting with others has been a struggle.  But luckily I have some great girlfriends I already met outside of work that I get together with.  But I do miss the friends I left behind. 

I have a flat with 2 other guys, both smoke and the smoke has really been getting to me.  As a non-smoker, its tough I notice the smell a lot and it gets into my hair.  I feel like I wash my hair constantly.  Plus, one of my bloke flatmates has his girlfriend living there, she is homeless and free loading off us.  The other bloke and I feel like we are paying for her.  The landlord wants it to change but is good friends with him and is chicken to say anything.

that is just my little observation about UK so far.  I'm sure things will fall into place soon.  But god am I missing home right now.

welcome to the UK had the same "squatting" situation occuring when I moved in to So. London...eventually I married the sod...

Seriously you've only been here a while so it'll take time...if you wanna a change of faces you're welcome to come to our place for the Halloween party...it's not much but it'll be good to chit chat with other Londoners if you like

..."livin' like a good boy, outta" , sorry, I couldn't help quote the Scissors Sisters line from your subject.

I bet if you move back to the US down the road you'll miss all the great things about the UK.    I know there are things I miss from both whenever I'm in the other country!

I'm sure you'll start to get used to life here, obviously, you've just moved over here and you're focusing on the good things from back home to forget about the stress of the move, the smoky roommates, etc.  It's great that you've got gfs to hang with, nothing like friends to make things a bit easier with the transition.

You may find not too far down the road that you can get out of the smokey flat and find a new, non-smoking roommate or even move into your own flat.  I know how bad the smokiness can get, I lived with 5 other smokers in a flat in college, nice guys, but the smoking bit really stunk (no pun intended).

Matt

Hi!  It does take a while to make connections - even when moving to a new city in the States.  But you'll do fine - you're a cool person so I doubt it'll take much time for you to connect.  Sorry to hear about the living situation.  Perhaps it's time to sit down and talk through all the issues.  Could the guys not smoke in the house due to a non-smoker living there? How long do you have to stay?

Well....best of luck to you!  And we bunch of us are going out for drinks on Thursday...wanna join in?

I have a flat with 2 other guys, both smoke and the smoke has really been getting to me. As a non-smoker, its tough I notice the smell a lot and it gets into my hair. I feel like I wash my hair constantly. Plus, one of my bloke flatmates has his girlfriend living there, she is homeless and free loading off us. The other bloke and I feel like we are paying for her. The landlord wants it to change but is good friends with him and is chicken to say anything.

that is just my little observation about UK so far. I'm sure things will fall into place soon. But god am I missing home right now.

Are you saying that this particular situation wouldn't happen in any city in the US? 

i know a lot of us have adjustment periods-when it all seemed so great and then reality hits and you say 'oh man i miss home'

it is GREAT that you have met folks outside of work.  Most of my good friends i've met through work or through my husband, and a smattering here on UKY.    It is HARD, but that's kinda the fun of it.  It is really easy to get down, people who were on here when i first came knew that i was having some serious adjustment issues.  But now I've been at my job almost a year (next week!) and i've settled in, it's been much easier.

Some of us adjust immediately, and i envied them.  But it is all part of the experience.

Lianne is right, wanna come out on thursday? 

Are you saying that this particular situation wouldn't happen in any city in the US? 

I doubt that was her intention. Home is a place of comfort for many people and when you are making a new adjustment you want to be comfy SOMEWHERE if you can't be comfortable in your own space, well of course a bit of homesickness creeps in.

londonitis, keep up the optimism, you know you will be just fine! can't wait to see you next month and speak californian together!

where she gone

This is a very typical situation for anyone moving to any foreign country, be it the US or Europe or Asia.  I'm just sharing my first week here and digesting all the difference around me.  I love London, don't get me wrong, that is the big reason I am here.  I guess I just realized how much I miss my family, my dog and my american products.  But I am having fun as well.

I would love to go out this week, but I am meeting with my recruiter agent who got me my job as celebration.  Maybe I'll get him to meet me wherever you are meeting.  I'm definitely in for the November 20th one.

Cheers! 

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I think that most people have to go through a period of adjustment. I've been here nearly 18 months (or I should say 'all of 18 months') and I miss home dreadfully.

But, to be honest, I suspect part of it is the fact that in Scotland it rains. And rains. I'm a sun person, from Illinois originally, and I have a hard time coping with the climate, I confess

Things WILL get better as you begin to form friendships and establish a daily routine. They will (I hope) make you feel more settled!

It is hard to adjust being here.  Everyone keeps telling you that you will soon adjust and love it here, and all you can think is "Well I hope it happens soon"  I do hope that you find happiness here.  I have realized that I can't ever truly be happy in England so I am moving back home in June.  In the mean time I will try to enjoy it while I am here.  England is a wonderful country in its own rights, you just have to figure out if it is a place that YOU can call home.  Rest assure that you are not the only one who has had these thoughts.  Good luck with everything.  Wishing you the best.


Danielle