am fed up - UPDATE

I just wanted to take a moment to thank all of you who have kindly replied to my previous post regarding my difficulties adjusting to life here. Many of you have been kind enough to offer to meet up, as well as PMing me with messages of support and your own stories of settling into life here. Thanks to all of you. I can't tell you how much your advice and support has meant to me right now.

As for everything else, well, I still dislike my job as much as ever. However, the extra money it provides has been a lifeline for us. Having two incomes now has taken away some of the financial stress that was bearing down on us at the start of the new year. It has also given us the freedom to do things to enjoy ourselves a bit more, which has been a big help for me.

We've also been trying to fill our weekends with enjoyable things like having people over for dinner or going to Cambridgeshire to visit my husband's family/friends. We went a couple of weeks ago for the first time since before Christmas and had a wonderful time. It was the first time I felt really happy in months and we're already planning to go back next weekend as well. I still desperately miss my own family and friends, but being with DH's family is helping to ease the pain a bit more now. I think it's especially difficult for me to be away from my family because I am the youngest , but raised as an only child as my siblings are all much older than me. I also lived with my parents right up until my wedding day so in addition to being in a new country, this is also the first time that I've ever really lived away from my parents permanently, which I'm finding really hard.

Nevertheless, I think I'm coping a bit better these days. Now that I'm earning some money, we've decided to take a little weekend break to Devon/Exmoor area. I've never been there before and we're really looking forward to it. Most of all, my wonderful husband has agreed to move back to the US permanently. It won't be for another 18mo or so, but now that I know the end is in sight I feel better about making the most of our time here now.

Anyway, I'm rambling now. Thank you again to all of you for your encouraging words and advice. It has been much appreciated. 

Glad to hear you are doing better!  Keep your chin up!!

I am really happy you are doing so much better! I have been in your shoes and know how you feel..Enjoy ever day as it comes!

Glad your feeling better and can now see the light at the end of the tunnel. Like you and MeShell and plenty of others I too have been in your shoes! I had a very tough first 18 months living over here. Some days now I love it but every now and then I still get that paralyzing feeling wondering what I am still doing here.

Get out as much as you can and see this beautiful country....spring is on its way and that makes everything a little better.   

i'm glad you're doing better!!  and i'm sure some sunshine will help you out too.  it certainly gets me down when it's overcast for days on end...especially being from california.  but when the sun is shining, i wake up on the right side of the bed and the day is just wondeful.

i had a feeling that a move back to the US was coming up when you started posting questions in regards to the requirements, paperwork, etc.  but who knows...maybe in that 18 months time, you might change your mind.....especially when summer gets here and it's light outside until 10pm!! 

regardless of whether you stay or leave, i'm glad you're doing better!!  keep your head up and don't sweat the small stuff.  it's all about the stepping stones of life and learning what makes you tick.....and enjoying the adventure in getting there!!

Glad you're feeling better! 

I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling better!!!

You will prob find that in the next 18 months you will suddenly realise you have settled because your mind is not focused on being here so much because you will be enjoying yourself but good luck with what ever you do just be happy enjoy yourself and relax.

Make sure you get what ever you need incase you want to come back to live in the UK again and good luck.


Chris and Sonya

Great to hear things are better.  I hope it continues.

Hope things continue to improve for you.

I'm glad you're feeling better and things have turned around for you. You've got a good man for a husband

That's fantastic news!  Things may not be perfect, but at least you are finding ways to make the most of your time together. 

So glad to hear that things are getting better!