Though I’m sure it can be done, in my opinion I don’t think it’s workable to rent a flat in the UK while you’re still in the States. You really need to be here.
What I would suggest to both of you is that either you or your partner (best option would be whoever will be providing the main source of income), come to the UK earlier, at lest a week or two, without your family and stuff, and establish a ‘beachhead’ so to speak.
Book a hotel in a central location, wherever you’ll be living, to use as a base and then pick one or two areas/neighbourhoods and blitz every estate agent until you find a decent place.
I found
www.findaproperty.co.uk to be the most comprehensive real estate website. The newspaper Loot also contains rental listings (or visit
www.loot.com) many offered direct from owners (at least in London).
In my opinion, at this point it’s less important to pick the ‘right’ location than to simply secure a place to live until you can get yourselves sorted after the move.
You can rent on a short-term basis (3-, 6-month, etc.), but even those offered on a one year term include a 6-month break clause in the lease meaning you can move after 6 months provided you give 30 days notice.
If the flat or neighbourhood doesn’t fit your needs you’ll be able to month in a relatively short period of time – which will also allow you to explore different neighbourhoods to find one to your liking or that better meets your needs. Plus many flats come furnished with beds, sofa and some even have kitchen stuff so you won't need all your possesions at first either.
I realise both of you have children and don’t know how feasible arriving before them given their ages but I would think it would be less stressful to be on your own while trying to find a place to live.
Jessica – I don’t know anything about Manchester or Nottingham but I wouldn’t worry so much about your credit because I doubt it will be checked. The two main things that you have enough income to pay the rent so a letter from an employer must be provided and your bank details (which I know is a whole other story)
Julia – you say you’ll be working near Oxford Circus, if you’re looking to live in London anywhere along the Bakerloo, Central or Victoria lines would be very convenient for your commute to work.
I’m most familiar with North and Northeast London and some decent spots on or near the Victoria line are Highbury, Finsbury Park, Stroud Green, Crouch End (post codes N7, N5, N4 and N8) Of course they are not the cheapest neighbourhoods but again, think of it as being for the short-term if it doesn’t work out.
On or near the Bakerloo: Kensal Green, Brondesbury, Cricklewood, West Hampstead (post codes NW6, NW2) I’ve only ever passed through but they seem decent enough to me.
On the central line: I was recently in Ealing and was very impressed! It appeared to me to be family-oriented with a very impressive high street town centre. Try around Ealing Broadway or Ealing Common and branch out (post codes W5, W13)