Anyone else not staying in the UK permanently??

I can't even fathom making a move like this any time in the foreseeable future. This last move was too big a wrench for us. The decision alone took months of agonizing. We're still putting down roots and making it all work, and for now we're happy. Our daughter starts university in less than six weeks ( :\\\'() and our older son has GCSEs this next year. We're committed to at least another six years. Neither of us has an urge to move back at this time, but who can say how we'll feel down the line? If we ever did return to the states it would have to be to California near my family. I will never live thousands of miles from either family again.

It's nice to have the choice, and I hope those who are struggling to move in either direction are soon able to work it out. It's awful not to live where your heart is.

Yes, I'd like to move back to the US eventually.  However, like many others, money is an issue so will be pinching my pounds for a while I'm afraid.   

We have an active case open to get a visa for David...we have done this 2x already and never get past the acceptance of my form. We LOVE the idea of living in the USA but then the practical issues arise. Like most jobs only give 2 weeks holiday and the insurance and "where" would we live. I have a house there now in my hometown BUT I would never ever move back there.

I have the house on the market to sell..I think if we were to move it would be in about 2 yrs time when all the kids are out of school

Dh is going for an in person interview in Texas - looks more and more like I will be back in the US before the new year 

This is just crazy! We have so much to do! Oh and I looked at jobs - I will be able to apply for at least 3 jobs in the area with a good chance at getting them. Plus, I should be able to get some pilates teaching jobs in the evening/weekends This makes me very happy, but a little nervous.

A little of topic:
Does anyone feel that even though the move to the US is right for them that they will miss some parts of living in the UK or feel that this time was too short and something will be missing when they go back? I suppose I just feel like as much as I know the US will be better for us as a couple, I know it won't be perfect or the answer to everything (because no place can give you that) and I think DH has some pretty high expectations. Maybe I do too, I just don't want to be let down after the move. I had such a let down when I moved here, a real depression/homesickness hit me when I moved here. I know it won't be the same going back, but I would like to prevent any major depression or down feelings if possible.

I remember pep talks while being a military dependent... they always used to stress how the "grass is always greener" syndrome is quite common...once you leave a place the bad can often fade into the background and the good is what you remember (barring any horrible/traumatic experiences). Then sometimes the "bad" of your new situation can make the other place you left seem better than it was.  It all boils down to making the best of where you are, because as far as I know there is no perfect place. I think that not idealizing things is a very safe and wise move.

I have moved quite a lot and would say that I have always had worse culture shock upon returning to the USA.... always because I expect things to be the same as what they were.  Even when I go back for visits I marvel at how rapidly things change. When I move outside the USA I am very realistic and expect things to be wacky, so I am never really upset when things are!

I, for one, am going to miss the UK and a lot of things in it terribly.  For me the parting is bittersweet and I will be back one day.   

 

Does anyone feel that even though the move to the US is right for them that they will miss some parts of living in the UK or feel that this time was too short and something will be missing when they go back? I suppose I just feel like as much as I know the US will be better for us as a couple, I know it won't be perfect or the answer to everything (because no place can give you that) and I think DH has some pretty high expectations. Maybe I do too, I just don't want to be let down after the move. I had such a let down when I moved here, a real depression/homesickness hit me when I moved here. I know it won't be the same going back, but I would like to prevent any major depression or down feelings if possible.

Of course - I think it's totally natural, just as is homesickness and depression - long as you know it's actually okay to be nervous, excited, scared, doubtful and curious all at the same time
(it better be, cuz that's what I am!)
I go back to my referencing lists and journal entries; they have always helped me remember.  And know, you can always return, whether as a visitor, or... whatever.
Know and accept that you WILL feel sad and depressed, even if you are going back to a wonderful place, people, income and support... it's still a massive change.  Allow it, but limit it.  There's too much to do than sit around and wallow!

  Allow it, but limit it.  There's too much to do than sit around and wallow!

This is the BEST advice .... I wish people would make it their mantra....it's one thing to give yourself permission to be sad, grieve, be upset and another to stew in it and spiral into a hard to reverse depression.

This is the BEST advice .... I wish people would make it their mantra....it's one thing to give yourself permission to be sad, grieve, be upset and another to stew in it and spiral into a hard to reverse depression.

You said it Sister!!!