Wedding colors/themes

I'm planning for our "blessing" ceremony and I am stuck! I need some colors but I have no idea what  I want or looks good. How did you pick yours? My wedding will be in early/mid Sept. next year. I do really like a deep red/wine/burgandy/marron ish color for dresses of bridesmaids but that's all I can get to lol. I have no idea about my dress, hair, ahh it's overwhelming. But I am thinking if I can get a couple of colours together, then planning will be so much easier. I would like fall colors, but not too drab and dark, no cheesy pumpkins or leaves. Something simple but classy. That's my idea anyhow. Any and all help is appreciated. Thank you!

god, colours.  This was a hard decision for me as well!  I too, am having a fall wedding (see ticker!!) and had settled on deep red and gold at first, which I still think is a fab scheme.  But in the end, I went with the colour I like the most- blue.  I made it a strong royal blue, though, since whichever colour I chose I wanted it to be bold!  Bright blue is a problem for flowers, though, so I chose lilac as an accent colour.

Ok, I'll probably get some stick here but why do you feel you NEED to have colours?

Pick things you like, that suit you and your fiance's tastes and personality.

Me, personally, I got so unbelievably sick of everyone asking me what my colours are that I'm not having any. We're choosing nice things, and I'm letting my bridesmaids choose the colour of their dresses from the available fabric (I'm sewing them so they'll have the same dress pattern). The thought of a "theme wedding" just makes me cringe. I know it works for some people, but if it doesn't work for you, don't force it, and don't feel like it's something you HAVE to do. It's actually really freeing to just choose things you like and not having to obsess over whether that shade is identical to this shade, etc, etc...

(Mine's also September 2009. )

Ok, I'll probably get some stick here but why do you feel you NEED to have colours?

Oh, I totally agree with this as well.  Colours are totally optional and if you feel like it's stressing you out more than it's worth, you don't need to have any!  I was very tempted to do just that, but I think what won me over in the end was that I wanted my flowers to all be in the same general colour scheme.

I had an October wedding (a long time ago) and chose deep rose red as the main color.  I love roses, so I used red and white roses, with purple Stattice as an accent color.

I bought the fabric and the dresses were made by a seamstress for $35 each (this was almost 20 years ago!)   Everyone really liked the color and I picked a semi-formal pattern that could be worn again.

Mom and I made the centerpieces - clear glass votives, white candles, surrounded by vine-looking wire with white and red silk roses, and little hearts hot glued on.

What springhaze said - I really like the contrast of a vibrant blue next to a paler blue/purple.  These days, I'm all about the monochrome!

edited because I should know better!

This is def. worth thinking about .The simpler the better I say. I know it would be so easy for the maids to get a black dress in a style I like (one sugguested this to save money and hastle) but I'm not so sure about black. Was thinking if I end up doing that then they'll wear a matching waist bow or something.
Is black too drab and a no no? I know it's what I want but I find it weird lol http://www.weddingtactics.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/black-dress.jpg
http://www.davidsbridal.com/accessory_return_ribbons_bridalparty.jsp

I just don't know is the problem, I'm indecisive. DH is happy if I'm happy lol!

Our colours were chocolate brown and sage green for all the stationery.  At the wedding the only things that were those colors were the bridesmaids dress (brown) and the ties the boys wore (sage green).  Everything else was just neutral.  We picked multicoloured flowers in reds, oranges and yellows.  I think it was subtle.   But I agree with above posters, if it's causing you worry or you just can't "envision" a colour coded theme...just go neutral and use colour sparingly. 

Also....think about where you are having your wedding and what their existing decor is like.  I was looking at all pink flowers when the florist I was working with pointed out how nicely the multicoloured reds and yellows worked in the venue.