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Don't like my midwife--is there anything I can do?
« on: February 01, 2010, 03:35:53 PM »
Hi there,
I'm 18 weeks pregnant and have seen my midwife twice at my GPs office. The guy is a disaster. He seems to screw up paperwork like no other. As an example, he wrote my BMI down wrong (77...lol...I would need to be removed from my house by a crane) resulting in my being classed as high risk and a lot of questions when I went for my first scan. He forgets to give me the forms I need (either he is "out of them, and I should remind him later" or, like today, he insisted he gave me the dentist/prescription form at my last appointment, when in fact his own notes showed that he still needed to give it to me, etc.) and today he told me my baby's heart rate was 88 (some bad math there). He is really disorganized and it scares me. I am not high maintenance at all, I just want to be able to trust the information I'm given. I could provide many more examples in addition to the above as well.

I know he's not the one who will deliver my baby (this is, of course, if he gets me properly booked into the hospital of my choice), but it feels like I am checking his work every step of the way. He told me this morning I had to have this paper slip in order to get into my 20 week scan (even though I was able to book this over the phone), but he didn't have any of them on him, so he said he would drop it off when he was at the hospital later this afternoon. I am soooo not believing that it will actually get where it needs to be. And I am afraid I will show up and they will refuse to do the scan because I don't have this mysterious paper, and I will have to wait another 8 weeks to get an appointment.

From the questions I asked at my first appointment, the midwives in my area work as a team, and so midwives are not "assigned" to people. The main midwife working out of my GP's office is a woman I have never met (she has been ill, or delivering a baby or what have you). So I just keep getting this crazy dude.

Anyone have any ideas? I think switching GP surgeries would just be a hassle, and would not fix the problem because the midwife team seems to work out of the two big hospitals in my area and service all the GPs. I am getting a little frustrated here though...







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Re: Don't like my midwife--is there anything I can do?
« Reply #1 on: February 01, 2010, 06:25:09 PM »
There is usually a team leader for the midwives. I'd get his/her name, hope it's not your guy, and tell them your concerns and insist on getting a change. From what I understand, changing should not be a problem. Sorry you're dealing with this!
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Re: Don't like my midwife--is there anything I can do?
« Reply #2 on: February 01, 2010, 08:57:05 PM »
Is he the only one for your GP surgery? Do you have the option of seeing a midwife at the hospital instead? They might be the same team, but you'd probably get a different person. Otherwise I'd go with Caryn's suggestion. The other alternative is to hire a private midwife, but that's pretty expensive.


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