First, let me say that I consider myself to be one tough girl. I've been through enough to believe I can get through anything. At 14, I had massive scoliosis surgery and was bedridden for six months and had to learn how to walk all over again. By 30, I had exercised my way to losing 108 pounds after living a sedentary life. I completed my student teaching with a class full of middle school students when I was 8 months pregnant with my daughter. I know that I have loads of determination and perseverence. When I get knocked down, I get up, that's me.
Until this. I never chose to fall in love with a Brit. If I had known it was going to be this hard, I might have done things differently. Don't get me wrong, I have ZERO regrets about him. My fiance is, hands down, my soulmate. And I used to not even believe in that word. Being apart from the last 1.5 years was hard enough. Now we are faced with the giant vortex that is fees being sucked out of his pocket. I have fallen on financial hard times, not being able to get a better paying job, and not getting enough hours at the one I do have. So I watch his savings dwindle, and there is no sign of the fees decreasing...in fact, the opposite.
I mean, there are some thoughts that the FLR (M) I will apply for after we are married may be twice or triple the cost it is now. Meanwhile we've got the damn volcano, looming strikes with British Airways, wedding costs (even for a cheap registry wedding!), not to mention "probationary citizenship" which no one has yet to clearly define. And when I get there, I will be super depend on him as I try to relearn everything.
And my God, do I feel guilt. I feel like I am making his life harder, not better. By the time we are done with visas, wedding costs, he could have had been halfway to a decent downpayment on a house. Of course, he is ever supportive and patient as I stress, cry, and vent. But God even he can't take away this guilt I feel. Why do they have to make it so hard for two people who love each other more than anything to be together?