I am SO upset...meeting the ex's new love when kids are involved.

Hiya,

Anyways he in addition to this development is being ridiculous about parenting time etc..so a lawyer battle lies ahead.

I agree, it sounds like lawyers are needed.  I wish you the best of luck in all of this, and hope that you can get it sorted out quickly, but it doesn't sound like it will be

Hiya,

I agree, it sounds like lawyers are needed.  I wish you the best of luck in all of this, and hope that you can get it sorted out quickly, but it doesn't sound like it will be

Yes, it does sound that way. Best of luck in dealing with all of this. 

Good luck Katrina! It sounds like it is getting very complicated and I hope you are able to settle things and move over here and on with your life soon.

I've been on both sides of the fence--as the new love and ex-wife.  When I fell in love with a custodial parent, we decided to live together.  I didn't press for a meeting with the ex.  It happened naturally, and we respected each other's position in the child's life.  We were never best friends, but we could get along.

When I was first the ex-wife, I told him not to bring her around (he left us for her). The one time she and I met, it was forced by circumstances.  Unfortunately, I'd learned some very ugly things about her, and she lived down to every one of them.  No way could she and I ever get along.  My daughter never met this woman.

I was also forced to meet Wife #3, due to circumstances (my daughter's aunt's funeral) beyond my control, and it was very awkward.  I don't know if she and I would ever get along, but living in different states has prevented that from being put to the test.  This meeting was also very awkward for my daughter, who was 17 at the time.  Her father's ll years of chosen absence from her life probably didn't help things either.    

I would do my best not to force a meeting with the ex's new partner.  If I'd been the new partner, I'd not have rolled the window down either.  I do understand your curiosity about her though.  For your child's sake, I hope she's a nice person with a lot of good to offer the little one.    

Wish you the best dear. As for the knocking on the window... in my experience I would of curled up and not made eye contacted with you. I was very nervous meeting my husbands ex, partly because I know that there was a good chance it was going to be confrontational experience and secondly its hard going into a conversation with so many emotions on both sides and know how everyone is going to feel afterwards.

I met their Mom before I met the two lovely step kids I have now. It was all her request and I know my husband was putting it off. The relationship they have with each other (my husband and his ex) requires so much from both of them. With their personal feelings aside  daily so that they can be there for their kids is a struggle at times and throwing a new wife in the mix is a whole new can of worms.

I was so nervous when we met, I actually only said one thing the whole hour my husband and her talked and that was to only say I support the both of them. It was a long time coming and I can see why maybe your ex hides from it. Sometimes people act foolishly and hide away from confrontation.

In your defence I would say that there is nothing wrong with asking to meet her, asking about the kids you both have and try and communicate. Looking back now it did take me quite some time to have that meeting, and I can say that my relationship with her and the two lovely kids I have met would have never of been this wonderful for everyone if it wasn't for the warmth, maturity and amazing strength their Mom.

She always speaks highly of me and I do the same for her. The kids and I are great "friends" and they know how much their Mom cares for them even when we might spoil them on the weekends.

I hope it all works out for you