He has a social life in the UK and I don't.

I have been noticing that my guy in the UK has alot of friends.  He goes out every weekend and sometimes after work for drinks.

So during the time he is out, he doesn't text me.  He is not as connected to his phone like I am, as I always check for messages.  I feel like

That is cool for him but I basically don't have a social life like that.  I am usually alone and i don't choose to go out as I seem to need the time alone cleaning up, getting caught up, working things out or going onlinefor hours.

But why is his having a big social life intimidating me a little?

Hi there, i dont particularly have an answer for your question - but i can def relate! Long distance relationships are hard enough as you are not close or together but it is so important to have trust and communication. Without those - its almost impossible to have a relationship (long distance or with someone just around the corner) i know it is hard and not easy thinking and imagining that your significant other is "being the life of the party" and as you said: has "a big social life" but also - rather silly prob - but UK being 5+ hours away (not sure where you are) its almost always common that you will catch your guy during the hours of his leisure and socializing. I know my boyfriend will call me at 7pm (my time) and i hear music & people chatting away and him slurring his speech being its midnight for him haha but i also know that he's the one for me and he loves me so i have to trust his decisions and just be happy that he's having a good time out with his friends. Like I said - without trust its hard to maintain a relationship. Of course i can completely understand also that its going to be harder for you if you're sitting by the phone - waiting patiently for him to call....i'm not saying throw on the dancing shoes and paint the town (although once in a while that is just what the doctor orders  ) But try to do you - dont fret and enjoy each day for you - because at the end of it all, you are the only one who is responsible for your full happiness and it will make the time go by much faster if you're also out and about doing things rather than just awaiting his calls. Or you can just tell him how much you enjoy getting a text from him and how it means a lot to you - but please dont be intimidated by your man's social life - be glad because his friends will end up being your friends

Hi. I can relate to this as I am very much like you. I tend to spend my time at  home, taking care of chores, etc.

My DH isn't super-popular but he does like to go out with friends, have a social life, etc.

I actually think this is a very good thing because it forces people like us to be more independent and to develop lives separate from our partners.

If you ever decided to move to the UK (as I did to be with my DH), it will force you to get out and meet people.

Since I have been here, I have spent more time socialising with people than I did in the US, not just with my husband's friends but with people I have met here on my own. I think that, psychologically, that is much healthier for me.

Sometimes people come here and post about how they have trouble making friends in the UK. Having a partner or spouse who is always around, so you can rely on them for company rather than taking the inititiative to go out and meet people, doesn't help.

I have to say that I love it when I am with DH and someone that he doesn't know comes up to me and starts talking to me because I've met them somewhere else on my own.

Even if you don't ever move to the UK, it's probably a good idea to use the time that your boyfriend spends enjoying himself to develop more of a social life of your own, or at least doing things for yourself that you enjoy, rather than waiting for him to text.

But why is his having a big social life intimidating me a little?

I think the obvious, although perhaps harsh answer is insecurity.   

You cannot expect your BF to sit at home waiting for a text from you when there are people inviting him to go out.  In a long distance relationship, I think its vital that both people maintain their own lives even if it means excluding the other person. (ie not sending texts for the evening)  I think its important to try to not feel ignored or left out in situations like this - since arent there, you CANT be involved.  What else do you want him to do?
 

I think the obvious, although perhaps harsh answer is insecurity.   

You cannot expect your BF to sit at home waiting for a text from you when there are people inviting him to go out.  In a long distance relationship, I think its vital that both people maintain their own lives even if it means excluding the other person. (ie not sending texts for the evening)  I think its important to try to not feel ignored or left out in situations like this - since arent there, you CANT be involved.  What else do you want him to do?
 

I have to agree with this, I know personally I felt better when I knew my fiance/bf at the time had things going on while we were apart.  Better than sitting around being miserable at home.  It would probably make yourself feel better if you had things to occupy your time too.  It does make the time go by faster, do you have any interest in any hobbies you might want to take up or classes you could go to?  I think it's important to be able to be comfortable spending time with yourself, as cheesy as that may sound, if you ever do decide to move to the UK with your boyfriend. 

That was a really hard part of my LDR.  You know your BF is amazing so you find it so hard to believe other girls won't realize it too! Then your mind goes nuts thinking.. "I'm so far away, wouldn't it just be easier if he found somebody close to home that he didn't have to pay so much just to go visit or deal with all this immigration stuff"  I bet you he's having those same thoughts and feelings towards you though.. It's only natural.  Trust your guy, I'm sure while he's out with the boys, he's driving them nuts talking about his "Hot Yankee Bird" and that he can't wait for you to join him and meet them all if/when the time comes.  Go out and have fun yourself. If your serious about moving out here to the Uk, it would do you good to visit some places and do things in the US before it's too late.  I know I really miss wake boarding on the lake just local to my home town- Wish I had done that more before I came to the land of rain and drizzle!   Cheer Up and try not to worry so much!