Communication moodiness, anyone feel this way?

Has anyone ever been through this?

I am head over heels for a guy I met on Match.com who lives in England. I'm in the US. We have not in person yet. I am planning a trip to the UK in the next few months to meet him for the first time. The relationship is still young.

So our communication is based on emails, IM chats and Skype.

Now, I KNOW that he really wants to be with me as much as I do him.  (I seriously do know this.)  But I can't help but feeling a little bi-polar about the last two days.

Is this normal?  The Ebb and Flow in communication with your loved one at times?

This whole weekend I didn't really get the amount of emails I usually get from him, first of all.  It took him more time to respond to mine.  He also isn't the kind of person to even look at his phone while while with his friends.  He writes me on break while at work during the week but not when he is out with his buddies.  I do kinda wish he's be more attached to his phone, checking for my emails like I always look at my phone!

The thing that got me a little 'off' and moody was when he wrote me late 'his time' and said he will pop on MSN messenger after he gets home from friends so we can have a chat. Later on, when he was probably home at that time, I went on MSN, i didn't see him online.  I checked my email, he didn't write me yet either.

So I popped on Facebook, and I DO see him online on the FB chat there!

I wrote him on FB and asked if he was busy.  He immediately got on messenger to chat to me.  He said he was talking to one of his mates who was having some difficulty.

The thing that kinda got me a bit moody was because he didn't come home and think of ME right away.  Instead, he went on Facebook when he got home to talk to other people on the chat first  instead of emailing me or opening his MSN.  I did tell him in an email earlier that I wanted to talk to him on Skype.

But when I asked him on messenger if he wanted to talk on Skype he said it was late and he had to be up for work and we should make it another night.

But we stayed on messenger for about an hour, so WHY didn't he want to open up Skype to talk and hear my voice instead of a vague chat session?

It's just that the first thing that I do when I get home is think of him and write him and it was surprising to find out that he doesn't do the same.

I even asked him tonight if he was loosing feelings for me, and he asked why I asked that, so i told him that i haven't heard from him as much... (i am thinking maybe the whole having a crush feeling has died down perhaps, i don't know)  But he said no, and he was wondering why I don't trust he feels the same way... so I told him that i just need reassurance.  He said that him being tired and busy and not expecting to go out tonight has nothing to do with how he feels for me.

Now i really do know he feels the same way for me as I do him. So why am I getting a bit moody about him contacting his friends first on FB before me when  he got home?

Does anyone get the same way??  Am I being too sensitive?

It's not uncommon for distance to cause some missed connections and off days, and it's totally normal for each of you to have a separate social life. Can I ask how long you've been together?

Yes, it's completely normal.  I've been in a long distance relationship for over a year and that "have to respond and be attached any possible way" feeling has subsided.  You have to remember that females and males think differently AND that he is at least five hours ahead of you. This puts him at a huge disadvantage because he probably stays up late to talk to you, winds up getting tired and cranky, and probably is missing out on a lot of the things he likes to do (aside from talk to you).

If you're gonna make this work, make sure you maintain sanity and keep a personal life.  He was probably just talking to a friend he hasn't talked to in ages because he spends the majority of his time talking to you. 

He loves you, don't worry.  Just give him some space.  Best wishes! 

IMO, feelings like this are totally natural, and bound to pop up in a LDR from time to time - especially a young one. 

When I first started my relationship with my boyfriend (now husband), I probably could have written a post very similar to yours.  With time, and as our relationship grew, those feelings have faded.  Now, I hardly blink when my husband says he's catching a movie/dinner/drinks with friends; I just find myself telling him to have fun, and say hi to his friends for me.  And sometimes, I'm the one to tell him that I can't talk to him for a weekend because I'm visiting family/friends and I won't have time to chat.

I think him having an active social life is good; all my friends always tell me that even married couples shouldn't be attached at the hip 24/7.  We should still maintain our own social lives and hobbies - yes it's hard when you're in a LDR that relies on email/IM/Skype only, but in the bigger picture, I do think it's a good thing for both partners.

If you consistently feel that he is not communicating with you in a way that is constructive for your relationship, you may need to sit down and have a chat and work things out.  But, IMO, feelings like this that only pop up from time to time will not last as your relationship grows stronger. 

When you do have these emotions, is he supportive and willing to help you through them?  Perhaps willing to take a few extra hours in the week to spend extra quality time with you because he knows you're getting hit by the stress of LDR?   

Okay so I am not trying to be mean or rude in anyway here, but I have read all posts from inloveuk on page 1 of "Enduring the Distance" and every time the answer's don't seem to go her way or are the fact that she shouldn't continue the relationship (ALL for very good reasons), she never replies back and starts a brand new post saying pretty much the same things? Now I could be wrong here, but I don't think she is listening   Just pointing it out!

Yeah, I think a few people caught on to that deal here: http://talk.uk-yankee.com/index.php?topic=65363.0

I think the mood turned once she said she is specifically looking for a British boyfriend because that's her type. She wants someone to affirm whatever beliefs she holds about this situation instead of real advice.