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divorce after a couple months
« on: July 28, 2011, 06:49:32 PM »
ive only been here a month (we got married in may in the us) and it has been complete hell. Neither one is happy and i just dont see a way for it to get any better bc there is no passion.  I shouldnt of moved here but i thought things would get better if i did.  My main questions are:
1) Can I file for a divorce cheaply and what would happen if she doesnt sign anything?
2) Is there any real changes if I wait until oct to file (im trying to at least wait til then bc i have a return ticket home and have no money at the moment)

I guess thats all I can really think of but if you have any additional info that would be helpful, it is greatly appreciated.


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Re: divorce after a couple months
« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2011, 07:04:45 PM »
Hi, Phil220 - I am sorry to read of your news.  :(

Filing for divorce in the UK - you need to have been married at least a year before you can file in this country (or two years in Northern Ireland).  More general info here.

I have no idea what the clause there about 'meet specific rules about how long you have lived in the country' is regarding.

It might be simpler for you to file once you are back in the US, but there you would need to research the laws for the state in which you would be filing.

If there is any hope of saving your marriage, you might want to look into this resource.
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Re: divorce after a couple months
« Reply #2 on: July 30, 2011, 10:49:34 AM »
thank you for the reply.  I thought we might be able to salvage but last night it blew up again and now its bad.  She wants me to move home and i have no way of doing so.  I just posted a new message about it.  Im honestly scared about whats gonna happen. 


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Re: divorce after a couple months
« Reply #3 on: July 30, 2011, 07:46:32 PM »
ive only been here a month (we got married in may in the us) and it has been complete hell. Neither one is happy and i just dont see a way for it to get any better bc there is no passion.  I shouldnt of moved here but i thought things would get better if i did.  My main questions are:
1) Can I file for a divorce cheaply and what would happen if she doesnt sign anything?
2) Is there any real changes if I wait until oct to file (im trying to at least wait til then bc i have a return ticket home and have no money at the moment)

I guess thats all I can really think of but if you have any additional info that would be helpful, it is greatly appreciated.

If you're going back to the state you left, see how long you can be gone without losing residency.  If you can get back there and file for divorce as a resident of that state, that may make things quicker.  I went through this many years ago, but it was a state-to-state move.  Because I was out of Texas for less than 12 months, I got my driver's license back without any testing, and didn't lose my Texas residency.  Best of luck to you.


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Re: divorce after a couple months
« Reply #4 on: August 07, 2011, 10:38:01 PM »
Phil- I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this and in such a short amount of time too :-\\\\ Have you guys sat down calmly and disscussed how you both really feel? Sometimes when we yell, call each other names etc.. our point or feelings get lost in the shuffle. If it's "passion" you say you're lacking have you tried anything to improve that? Have you considered counseling/therapy? What about staying at a friend's place for a week so you both have some space and time to think? I only make these suggestions because I feel marriage is a serious commitment and feel if it's possible to do all you can before throwing in the towel. If you really have your mind set on divorce, you should try doing it in the states (maybe your home state..?) Check into the laws of your home state and weigh out your options. I can tell you this much (I'm going down this road as we speak) you can go through a mediator and only pay for the filing charges on the paperwork. That's an inexpensive way, HOWEVER if you don't agree on everything then it can be a very long, drawn out process which could cost you MORE in the long run.. I wish you the best in finding a solution to your issue. :)
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