Due date approaches after Miscarriage

I was wondering how those of you who have had miscarriages have coped with the approaching due date.  My due date would have been July 9.  Today, after the business of the weekend and with my son at school and husband at work, I'm finding that I can't seem to "get going".  I'm very teary with the date approaching.

I think too that with my age, I'm realising that we may not have another child - not that another could ever replace the one that we lost

I am so grateful to have my wonderful little boy and should be so happy to have him and a supportive husband, but I just feel really stuck in a rut today.

So sorry.

Reach out for support, if you are ready - my sil has had three miscarriages in the past year, now that she is telling people she is recieving support everywhere from people she didn't even know had miscarriages in the first place. It doesn't magically fix anything, but at least she knows she is not alone.

Big hugs!

Hun, I am so sorry for your loss. I miscarried my first pregnancy back in March and I understand the stress and worry about trying to get pregnant again afterwards and then grieving the loss at the same time.

To be honest, the best outlet I have found is another forum which I'm not sure if you've heard of, babyandbump.com. They have whole sections dedicated not only to miscarriage support but also ttc after a loss, which is the most amazing and supportive group of ladies. I love my husband dearly, and he kept me together during the miscarriage itself, but he doesn't always understand why I might still cry every once and awhile about it (he has grieved and is now focused on trying again) and he worries about me when I talk about how depressing it all can be sometimes. That is why this group of women that have all gone through the same thing is a lifesaver for me, I am able to express it all very plainly and they completely understand in a way that only someone with similar experiences can.

Hugs!

Thank you both.  I'm feeling much better today - went to the gym, which helped.

I also found this amazing poem for those of you who have suffered a miscarriage:


Just Those Few Weeks

For those few weeks-
I had you to myself.
And that seems too short a time
To be changed so profoundly.

In those few weeks-
I came to know you...
And to love you.
You came to trust me with your life.
Oh, what a life I had planned for you!

Just those few weeks.
When I lost you,
I lost a lifetime of hopes,plans, dreams, and aspirations...
A slice of my future simply vanished overnight.

Just those few weeks-
It wasn't enough time to convince others
How special and important you were.
How odd, a truly unique person has recently died
And no one is mourning the passing.

Just a mere few weeks-
And no "normal" person would cry all night
Over a tiny, unfinished baby,
Or get depressed and withdraw day after endless day.
No one would, so why am I?

You were just those few weeks my little one
You darted in and out of my life too quickly.
But it seems that's all the time you needed
To make my life so much richer-
And give me a small glimpse of eternity.

by Susan Erlin

Hugs to you - I miscarried our first shortly after we were married.  I remember being so low around the due date as well, you have every right to grieve and think of "what if".  I can say that it gets better with time, mine was 6 years ago now and although I will never forget our first, I dont think about it daily (or weekly) as I used to.

You say this will probably be your last - have you thought about testing to see if there are any fertility issues?  I know you mentioned age, if you would like another maybe you can see a specialist to see if they can help?

Thank you for this.  I may check with my GP about it.