Hello everyone,
So, I’m in need of a bit of reassurance or even some positivity?!
As most of the members here, I will be making the move over to the UK in late January. Unlike many here though, I won’t have someone waiting for me, or even, at least as it appears at the moment, a job lined up for when I go.
I suppose you may ask, why go then? Well, I’ve always wanted to move back to Europe. For quite some time now I’ve made choices that have put me on the course to move there, such as school and what not, but never made it over as I felt the timing was not right and neither were my finances.
I don’t really have much holding me here, other than a handful of friends and my family. No boyfriend, kids, or even a career to really substantiate my staying put in the U.S.
The responses I generally get from those I tell of my plans, fluctuate between: “You’re crazy for doing this” to “Do it honey. If I were younger, I’d do it in a heartbeat.”
My family, though supportive (i.e. Can’t really tell you not to do it, as you’re an adult!) are a bit reluctant to give me their full consent, especially my sisters. My sisters are the ones who guilt me the most for doing this. I suppose my parents would too, were they aware that I have no intention on coming back to the US, especially if all should work out accordingly to plan.
It’s a daunting thing and such a risk, I know.
I was feeling very self-confident and assured about myself and everything right up until this weekend.
I had family stay over from overseas for a month and after they left (last Friday) the whole thing left me less sure of things and I began to doubt and fear all I’m doing.
I suppose the melancholia and coming to the realization that such a life will eventually become my life (i.e. living far away from friends, family and all things familiar), really took its toll.
Anyway, as I mentioned above, I guess I’m just looking for some words from those who’ve undergone the process of uprooting your entire life elsewhere. I’ve had to do it once before, when my family and I first moved to the US, you’d think I’d be used to this. But I was a kid then and my family was the one undertaking the entire process. AND we DID have family waiting for us over here when we arrived.
So, I guess my question is, has anyone ever done it alone, with no one or anything awaiting them?
Thanks in advance for the listening ear.
Liliana