Hi. My wife and I are uncertain about which sort of visa path to pursue for me. Here are our particulars:
Me: a US citizen. Sort-of-retired, but expect I will work more in the years ahead. Married over 22 years to my lovely…
Wife: a UK citizen, also sort-of-retired. Came to the US with her parents as a child, and has a green card (permanent US residency) from a period when the US actually encouraged immigration.

Her parents: moved back to the UK and are now in declining health. We want to move to be closer to them as well as to our …
Son: 18 years old, studying at a university in England. Got his UK passport a couple of years ago, now a dual US-UK citizen.
So my wife and I want to move (together) to England this year but are finding it much harder to figure out the immigration rules than we did the rules for getting our son’s UK passport. We expect to stay in England at least several years, and probably permanently.
I had initially, naively, thought I would be able to enter the UK on a tourist visa (or more accurately, as a tourist from the US, without a visa), then convert to some longer-term visa or apply for a residence card, as outlined on the gov.uk website:
“Apply to remain in the UK with family”
https://www.gov.uk/remain-in-uk-family“Apply for a UK residence card”
https://www.gov.uk/apply-for-a-uk-residence-cardHowever, from reading posts on this message board, it seems like these might be the wrong path to take, though I haven’t been able to wade through the official government rules to understand why exactly.
On the other hand, my wife isn’t currently living in the UK, so it doesn’t seem as though I should “Apply to join family living permanently in the UK”
https://www.gov.uk/join-family-in-ukBut I guess maybe this
IS how I need to apply?
Much gratitude if anyone can clarify this first step for us!