high risk pregnancy in the UK

when there is no continued benefit to being in my mean uterus.

Such as lung maturity . . .

Um, with all due respect - WTF is that supposed to mean?

Day to day risks ARE quite numerous on their own without creating more.

And I too have children from "previous relationships" and would LOVE to have a child with my husband.  My soulmate - the one man I have ever really and truly loved and who has no biological children of his own.

But it would be HIGHLY irresponsible of me to do so, as we haven't the means to support another child on our own.  And now that I'm in my late 30s rather than in my early 20s, the risks ARE higher even though I have had no previous problems with pregnancy.

And - yeah - actually, I think the amount of unloved and unwanted children in the world should pretty much be on every parent's mind all the time.

Again with the use of the word "right" when it comes to reproduction.

IT IS NOT A RIGHT.

We all have our sob stories, and my point is, we shouldn't have to use them to justify our actions.

Concern for unfortunate kids does not have to have any bearing on how one chooses to form one's family. 

Right..so why again are we driving instead of taking buses?  There is no way to eradicate risk from your lives, and well-considered decisions won't necessarily throw things out of balance.

As much as I love lots of boldened words, I have to disagree.  Bearing children, or not, is one of the most fundamental of human rights.

Well, you obviously know what's better for your kids than nature does.

Stupid Mother Nature, keeping babies in utero for a whole 9 months, when really you can just send 'em out early and incubate them for a bit to finish them up.


Oh - and that was underlined, not "boldened."

Mine is NOT a "sob story."  It's my life.  The way I've lived it.  And learned from it.

Well, you obviously know what's better for your kids than nature does.

Stupid Mother Nature, keeping babies in utero for a whole 9 months, when really you can just send 'em out early and incubate them for a bit to finish them up.


Oh - and that was underlined, not "boldened."

It's also mother nature that, like most other Rh negative women, would have killed me and my second child 100 years ago before the Rhogam shot.  Nature is not some all-wise and all-knowing goddess.

And yes, fortunately, you can safely deliver many babies and incubate them if necessary.  Mine were at home a month before their actual due dates, so make of that what you will.  Mother nature apparently favored them, which is why I'm optimistic about the health of another baby.  Like I said, it's the procedures that make me nervous, because I'm a scaredy cat!

Incidentally, they have medication to help mature lungs that worked a trick on mine.  The shot I got for it sure hurt though..

Having shot this thread to hell, I figured I may as well start a new, more specific, one.  If you're interested.  I don't have much else to say here that would be productive.  I really didn't intend to start a mini culture war within my first day of being here. :/

Having shot this thread to hell, I figured I may as well start a new, more specific, one.  If you're interested.  I don't have much else to say here that would be productive.  I really didn't intend to start a mini culture war within my first day of being here. :/

You didn't start it. Sometimes all it takes is someone asking a question and all hell breaks loose.

Locking it at this point. 

And I'm not bothering to delete the off topic threads.  Obviously, some people's need to make judgements is to great to keep to themselves.   

People, this was just a question about high risk pregnancy in the UK.  Not an invitation to give opinions on the wisdom of that.

The pregnancy and parenting board on UKY has always been a supportive and happy place and I for one am very disapointed with the recent turn of events. 

From here on in, unfortunately the moderating will have to be alot heavier than we at UKY are used to.  Too bad not everyone can play nice.