Thank you so much for the breakdown! No we seriously considered it but we already had alot of stuff booked for the wedding. Hopefully itll all come together!
You know, you could actually get married in the US, and still do all the wedding stuff in the UK that you have already booked.
It would just be a question of doing everything the normal way, but not actually doing the actual legal bit (signing the register) at the UK ceremony... you wouldn't even need to tell the guests - you could just carry on as if it's a regular wedding, but you simply don't sign anything legal.
A friend of mine from school did this the other way around... she moved to the US on a fiance visa, then got married and converted her status to a spouse visa in the US. Then they returned to the UK and she had her big wedding there with family and friends. For all intents and purposes, the UK wedding was the proper one, and if I hadn't known how the US visa process worked, I would have thought her wedding photos on FB were the real thing.
