I think I just need some advice....

I am a US-citizen living in NY. My boyfriend is a British citizen living in the UK. He is going to ask me to marry him within the next few months. I would like to move to the UK as a trial-run before making the big jump across the pond. But I am really worried about the whole visa/work thing and being a burden on him.
I know as a tourist, I can stay only 3 months and I cannot work. So coming as a tourist is out of the question.
To come on a fiancée visa, I know I have up to 6 months to live in the UK, but again I cannot work, and I do not want to be a burden on his finances. And we also do not want to be married within 6 months. We would like to marry in the summer of 2006.
I do work for a pleasant international company with an office in NY and an office in London (where my boyfriend currently works). If all else fails, as a last resort, I am wondering if they would sponsor me for a work visa. I think the process is quite long and expensive though, and so it makes me doubt if they'd even be willing to go through the trouble for me, especially since they've already done it twice to my knowledge, and it would probably look suspicious to UK Immigration officials that this company keeps submitting work visa applications to import all of their employees' boyfriends/girlfriends/fiancé(e)s from various other offices in other countries around the world.
Another option I can look in to is claiming Italian citizenship. I qualify for Italian citizenship through my mother. Then I could get my Italian passport and come to the UK and work. (Unfortunately though, I don't speak any Italian, so if I were ever questioned about it, I would look pretty silly....) But as an EU-national, I should be able to find work fairly easily in the UK. (Right? I think...?)
I know it seems awful, but <insert stereotypes here>. I can't help but think that being an Italian and an American, from NY no less, that I would have a few strikes against me when seeking employment in the UK, even though I am edcuated (B.A. in Interdisciplinary International Studies) and well-spoken (Yo, s'up?)
I don't know. What do you all think? Sorry if this is a bit long. Enough of my rantings.
Would love to hear any and all ideas, feedback, anecdotes, etc... from people who've been through the same/similar thing. Thank you so much!

Jeannie