Hi everyone!
I did a WW post but thought I would post in here too.
First I wanted to say that in just the few posts I have read so far in here (it's 3am now- so reading more posts will have to come later.
) I feel like I really 'match' with some of you and feel like there's so much in common which is not really something I can say often.
As for my personality, I am an INTJ. I am quiet, soft-spoken, very calm, love to spend time inside my head, and generally come off as aloof to other people. I am very friendly, but I do have my standoffish moments.
I'm also INTJ, as well as quiet and generally soft spoken but not calm. I do come across as standoffish too at times and have no idea why or how.
succumb to a video games (lately, World of Warcraft, eep).
I'm an ex-WoWie- have to say thank goodness those days are over as my addiction was too strong. It's a great game for those that can control themselves- apparently I can't.
Ok, so me- I live in Washington state. We moved here 2 years ago from living in Colorado for 10 years. I grew up in New Mexico, spending summers in Seattle with my dad. As soon as I could break away I got out of NM as quickly as I could and moved to Oregon with my then boyfriend. We married, had two kids together and moved to WA state where we promptly ended the marriage. It had actually been a long time coming and I still can't believe it took me so long to see the light. Everything happens for a reason, right? So a month after he moved out, I met a great new guy on ICQ. I had been on ICQ for a few months and had met my fair share of truly weird people, so I was not putting a lot of faith into the whole thing and given I had just ended my marriage and was still legally married I was not really looking for anything serious.
Fate had other plans- along came this one guy that initially came across as just as cocky as all the others and I almost closed out the chat window from this random guy (ICQ has (or had, I don't know how it is now) a function on it where you could press the random button and it could bring up anyone anywhere in the world- truly had no idea who you could get to chat with), but he redeemed himself quickly by showing some humbleness. We shared pictures pretty soon after starting to talk and dang he was cute! I was sure it would not lead anywhere as he was just so attractive and I was not having very high self esteem myself. Plus he was from Sweden and I was still in WA state and while I was most enthralled by foreigners, I just could not imagine anything actually coming of it.
But we kept talking, and talking more and more as time went on. This was in June, by late July we had decided to meet in person, so he came in September to the US and we spent several weeks together doing some traveling over several states and a bit of Mexico. I personally fell in love but not so sure he was quite there yet. He's very reserved and timid and very down to earth so in his mind he assumed things very differently than me who is reserved and timid but very much not down to earth.
The night before he was to leave- with no plans to see one another again- I tried my best to get him to stay. Sounds desperate doesn't it? I guess it sort of was, it was really just fear that we would not see each other again.
But the day after he left he asked if he could come back for Christmas!
So we spent Christmas alone together (my kids were due to be with their Dad) and it was amazing.
That visit was only for 2 weeks, so once again he had to leave.
I went to visit him in Sweden in February and then the kids and I went in April and stayed with him for 3 months. He came back to the US with us for a couple weeks and then returned to Sweden to quit his job, sell everything and came back for good in October.
We married in December and 9 months (to the day of our wedding) later our first child together was born. We had moved to Colorado before she was born. Three years later we had our second child together.
DH has been my first two children's father basically since we met. He's done everything for them and is now the only father either of them have as their biological father has basically nothing to do with them and has not for quite some time now.
My oldest is now 18 (boy) and figuring out how to find his way in the world.
The other 3 children are 14 (girl) (almost 15 and going on 25), 11 (girl) and 8 (boy).
This has turned out to a very long post (sorry).
In general I like to read, travel, bake (when I have some peace), cross stitch, puzzles, I love my alone time. I definitely know I don't fit in the US.
Currently doing what I can to find a way to make the move that has been a long time coming. A little lost and confused about it all, how to make it happen, and how to make it happen while keeping everyone happy. These things are hard when you are sort of the only one truly on board in a family.
