Reasons You Haven't Relocated Yet?

(I apologize if this isn't in the right forum . . .)

There seems to be a lot of you in the same situation I'm in (living in the US and am dating someone living in the UK).

I'm just curious as to what's prevented/preventing either your SO moving here or you moving out there . . .

Money?  Work?  Kids?  Legal issues?  Something else?

Our decision was largely financial -- we figured that whoever did the moving would probably be unemployed for a while.  My husband was more established in his career (in the UK) and we could both live on his salary, if it came to it.  I had only been teaching for two years and wasn't very committed to my job (in the US), and there was no way the two of us could live on my pitiful $27K a year!  So I moved to the UK!   

It's all work related for me. I haven't quite figured out how people who just decide to up and move actually get it done yet. I've already decided that I want to make the move, but I don't have the right answers regarding the process yet.

well, for me when we were dating.....we couldn't get to the other's country visa wise!  we tried our darnest.....with both our countries!

So then, when we got married, it was all sorted. Fast. 

I am in the US, my partner is in the UK and right now we are trying to build up time in order to get unmarried partners.  The plan was for me to go there, but he wants to come and live here for awhile first so he's going to be doing career training (fingers crossed!) thru CIEE.  I love it there, he loves it here, but we just want to be together.  We don't want to rush in to marriage for a visa at this point.

How long has everyone else done long distance? 

hi, i live in the us and am also dating someone who lives in the uk. i was just wondering if you know anyways that i could move there? thank you.

I am in the US, my partner is in the UK and right now we are trying to build up time in order to get unmarried partners.  The plan was for me to go there, but he wants to come and live here for awhile first so he's going to be doing career training (fingers crossed!) thru CIEE.  I love it there, he loves it here, but we just want to be together.  We don't want to rush in to marriage for a visa at this point.

How are you building up time for the UP visa if you're on separate continents?  You have to live together akin to marriage for 2 years (like in the same dwelling) before you qualify for the UP visa. 

[How long has everyone else done long distance? 

Well, 27+ years really.  Married 26 years, but my wife came and went to the various places I worked when I was in the Army.  We are finally about to downside to one flat, and it will be the one in the UK.

This pattern suited us.  But repeating something I said elsewhere, this lifestyle is only for people of an independent yet loyal disposition.

Jim

Why? Hubby wanted to live here so we are, now he HATES it and as we have been here since 1996 it is hard to just pack up with 2 kids and go back. I would go bankrupt and head back to the UK today if I could.

How long has everyone else done long distance?

As for how long we have been long distance, we met in Sept. 94. From then until he moved to the US was 19 months with a total of 7 months in that time we were together. It takes a lot of strength to stay together long distance.

my boyfriend is in school full time in england, working on his engineering degree. once he can secure a job full time and switch his school to part time, we will get married and i will move over. (we are counting on the summer time since i am going through with the PETS process to bring my chihuahua over with me and have to wait six months)

we have been doing long distance for almost 3 years now. bleh!

How are you building up time for the UP visa if you're on separate continents?  You have to live together akin to marriage for 2 years (like in the same dwelling) before you qualify for the UP visa. 

I lived there with him for over a year, but had to leave due to my visa being up.  Since then he has lived with me for 3 months (continously) and I have visited so that we never go more than 6 months apart.  The plan is for him to either keep living here for 3 month intervals, risky I know or to gain career training for up to 18 months.  We have all the evidence, a joint account, etc. but are waiting until we can definetley qualify.  We wouldn't be apart right now if we could help it, we have been seeing each other for three years now, it's really starting to suck being so far apart.  

Just met him 3 months ago. The longest we've gone apart is 4.5 weeks. I plan on doing my masters over there in the fall, moving at the end of August. We will go from there and figure things out later. Right now, being together is all we both want. The best part about going to school over there is the best of both worlds - improving myself through education and living with the one I love. The plan is for him to then move back to the States with me.

She lived here with me for a year and 1/2 and went back home  a Month ago... Im heading over to stay for a few months in March.

He just finished his PhD in November and has been job hunting ever since.  I didn't think it would help our visa application if he was on benefits, and right now he's living with his parents.  He does have savings, but he wants to put those towards a house.  I'm hopeful that he's going to get a job in the next month or so and a flat for us, then we can move forward with wedding plans and such.  I make enough money to support myself, but I want to save some more before I go, as I don't know how soon I'll be allowed to work, depending on when and how I get my spouse visa.  We've been apart for just over a year, we've been able to visit each other a few times, he was just here for 2 weeks.  Each time it gets harder to say goodbye, so I'll be very glad when we can finally be together, hopefully no later than this summer.

I came to the UK to live and work for a year on a work permit, with no intention of marrying. I had only just met DH online a month before I made the move, and he was just going to be one of many 'acquaintances' who I could meet up with and make more contacts through. But when I got here, we hit it off in a big way, ended up moving in together within the first three months, and the rest is history.