For those of you who haven't "moved over" yet...

It seems like everyone on here is making the big move to the UK to be with their boyfriends/fiances/spouses rather than their boyfriend/fiances/spouses moving to the US. For those of you who haven't moved over yet, why is it you that's moving instead of them moving to be with you? And would they ever be willing to move back to the US if you for some reason weren't happy?

Just curious.

I already made the move but I can tell you why we made the decision for me to move to the UK. Financial. My job would never have been enough to meet the US regulations for me to sponsor him to the US. Yes he would move to the US if we found it didn't work here.

Helena

Our reason was mostly financial too.  He had a good job and I was unemployed at the time.  And secondly to that reason, the deciding factor was the length of time it would have taken to get him a visa to come to the US.  Only took me two weeks to get one to come to the UK. 

We've always planned on moving back to the US "someday"...but the longer we live here the further away that seems to get. 

I'm already here, too, but our reasons were pretty much the same.  DH was more established in his career and the UK visa process was just easier and quicker than moving him to the US.  I think moving back to the US is an option, but not something we're even considering at this point.

I'm here already as well.  And there was never any question who was going to make the move.  I hated where I lived; I hated raising my kids there; I could have NEVER afforded to "sponsor" or support a family of 4 during the US visa process for my husband.

And there's no question - we have no plans to ever live in the US, and never have.  This was a permanent move for me.   

Like Peedal said. My move here is also permanant. Frank has a good paying job and we live pretty well. We were able to get on the property ladder when the market was reasonable. I love Franks family and really havent many family ties in the USA. I cant see any reason to move back.
Also when I moved here over 4.5 years ago it was pretty easy to get a visa. I think it would be a total hassle for Frank to get a US visa. Blah! Who needs it!

Well, the plan was always for him to move to the US and for us to start and end our life there.

But he was offered a better paying job, letting us pay off his debt more efficiently, and it gave me the chance to leave the job I wasn't happy in and fufil my dream of living in london.

I love it here, but we'll return home some time soon.  My family and friends are there, and New England is very near and dear to my heart.  I think we may return here someday after our kids are grown.  There is something about small town england that makes me want to return to a house with a garden and live our last years in England. 

I'm here already too.  Basically the same, Richards job was better, and more opportunity to grow.  Mine was good, but I didn't want to Fundraise anymore.  I also needed a change and I loved England!  We want to travel more and will start in the summer.  Although it's not what I was hoping it would be, I still want to give it a try.  We had discussed going back in 4 years, but now I think maybe we will stay longer.  I hate the thought of keeping a date in my head, I want to make this place my home.

I am already in the UK. I moved here as my DH had a good job and a home he was buying.  I always thought we move to USA, asap.  My thoughts have changed on this and enjoy living in the UK.   My DH might be transferred to Maryland with his job, not sure how I feel about this.  It would have been very tough for me to show that I could support a family of four and sponsor my DH.  The UK route worked for us.

Ditto for us as well.  11 years ago Ian was already in a good job here and owned his own home.  I had just moved back to NY from CA and there was no way I could support the two of us. (Although I know he would have loved to have been a "kept" man.   )

It wouldn't suprise me in the least if we moved to the US at some point.  Everytime we go to visit, he picks up the Real Estate mags and is always reading out what we could get for how much.  

Everytime we go to visit, he picks up the Real Estate mags and is always reading out what we could get for how much. 

Sounds like my husband; a real estate junkie!

Well, we met in Chicago while my husband (UKC) was working there.  We were married in '96 and moved to England ten days later as he was transferred back.   DH had a mid-terraced house in Tilehurst (Reading) that he let while in the states.  We stayed there for a few weeks and got it ready to sell as we needed to live in more centrally.

We just returned to September in Chicago.

Well, as you can see from my ticker thingey, I haven't moved over yet.

My story is:  I lived in London through BUNAC, met the love of my life and had to come home.  At the time I thought it would be easier to come back to the states, move somewhere nice and finish University while my (now) husband was the primary breadwinner.

He came over on a fiancee visa October 2003.  We got married and are very happy together.  We are moving back to the UK for a few reasons:  WE HATE LIVING IN MISSISSIPPI, I can't afford to not work full time and can't finish university, I have had hip replacement surgery and need to know that I can afford to see a doctor when I need, we can't afford to move elsewhere in the US and me finish university either,  we hate living in Mississippi, and I know this is going to make me seem like a jerk, but I don't particularly like living in the US right now.  I have to get the hell out of here before I lose my mind.  DH is no fan of the US either.  When he first got here, the weird things were funny and idiosyncratic to him, but now they are his everyday life (part of this is living in MIssissippi, part living in the US) and he would like to leave, too. 

right, so I've been accepted to the University of Manchester and DH is going back to secure a job and flat at the end of this month.  I will come over in August.

and I CANNOT wait. 

sorry for the rant.  We would probably be happier some place like NYC or San Francisco or Boston, but it is just more feasible for us to move back to the UK.   

We just returned to September in Chicago.

 

Long day, Kellie?  Or just a lack of good cheese in your diet?

Oops.   

It's quite likely a cheese-deficiency, or perhaps the caffeine had not yet kicked in....


I really need to proofread.   

Oops.

It's quite likely a cheese-deficiency, or perhaps the caffeine had not yet kicked in....


I really need to proofread.

I found it quite cute - a most endearing slip up!