How long before marrying?

some personal questions...answer at your own discretion...just curious.

How long did you and your brit hubby date before deciding to get married?

How long did you date long distance before doing so?

What was the longest time apart you spent away from your future hubby?



I'm interested b/c I've seen posts of people experiencing up 6months apart between visits. This seems extreme and I would think it's difficult to keep a relationship going without the prospect of a future together (for most that means marriage). Just an inquiry - b/c my brit bf and I are so in love and if I wasn't going to study for a year for my masters, we'd be making the marriage committment sooner, not right away, but sooner than discussed now.

Well I would be one of those extreme cases-- We knew each other 7 years before we were married. I am not sure how to say how long we were dating-- it was all long distance and it is hard to say exactly when something switches from friendship to dating. We had years between seeing each other.

Helena

Dated? Hmmmm.  About a year and a half, I guess.
Dated long distance?  ohhhhhh about 10 months of that. 
Longest time apart?   uh, Oct-Jan, so four months. Then we were in the same country but about 300 miles apart, so we long distance dated for another 8 months or so.   
Then we lived together for about 2 months and we then we got married.   

We met online August 2002, in person Oct 2002, he came twice, I went there twice, he moved here May 2003 and we got married August 2003 so if you start from our online meeting we knew each other about a year before we got married.  Our longest time apart was about 2 months I think.

We met online in August of 1999. 
He proposed in June of 2001. 
We met in person in July of 2001. 
Visited November 2001, April 2002, June 2002, December 2002.
Married September 2003.
Moved to UK October 2003.

Our relationship was long distance the entire time -- from the day we met to the day we married.  The longest we were ever apart (after meeting in person) was nine months (the nine months leading up to the wedding) and it was hell, but knowing that our wedding was at the end of it made it bearable. 

Came over here in late Sept 2000 to do an MA. Met him immediately but didn't become an 'item' until Feb/March 2001. In Oct 2001 he finished his degree and job hunted while living with his folks. He didn't get a job until May 2001 so for Oct-May, I saw him off and on. We were in the same country but I was in Reading and he was in Newcastle. It sucked and I can't imagine surviving a true LDR.

I moved in with him in May 2001 and we've been together since. Married this past Oct 2004. 

Wrote first letter to him on 18th March 1985.

Met him in person on 26th January 2001.

Moved to UK 9th September 2002.

Married 21st March 2003.

Met at our friends wedding May 2002
Started dating July 2002
LD till June 2003
Engaged November 2003
Longest time apart about 6 weeks
Married first time January 2004
2nd time May 2004

Met online December 1997.

Met in person November 1999.

Engaged July 2000.

Married October 2000.

Since we met it was never longer than 4 months apart.

How long did you and your brit hubby date before deciding to get married?

How long did you date long distance before doing so?

What was the longest time apart you spent away from your future hubby?

We dated long distance for a year and a half, and the longest we were apart was six months - the six months before I actually moved over. We lived together for just about exactly a year before we got married, which we decided to do after living together for about 8 or 9 months (that part was all very casual and informal since by then we knew we were going to stay together forever - we just had to work out the details....) 

Became pen pals 5/03
Met face to face 9/94
Engaged 12/94
Apart as engaged about 8 weeks.
Move to UK 2/95
Married 7/95
I moved back to USA 8/95
Apart until 4/96 when he moved to USA with green card and ect.
Together ever since.

Met in person at a BAR!!  September 2002
Knew we wanted to get married - December 2002
"officially" engaged - February 2003 (so family wouldn't think we were nuts)
I moved to USA - March 2003
He visited - May 2003
I went to UK to "pick him up" for move to US - October 2003
Married - November 8, 2003

and very happy

He is currently in the UK job hunting and we will be apart until August.

So, longest apart, 5-6 months, not counting short visit - 8 months.

I miss him desperately now but we talk twice a day and e-mail loads.

Met online July 2004   
Met in person March 2005 
Engaged Easter 2005 (while I was in England)
Will be together this week!!!  Woo hoo!!   
Will be together again in August and December - he will come here to Michigan
Will marry next Spring here in Michigan 
I will move to UK next year, probably Summer   

Longest time apart, so far, is the 7+ months before we met in person the first time.  It was nearly unbearable.  I hope we never have to go that long again without being together.  Leaving each other at the airport was agony.  :\\\'(

~Liza

met on-line Oct 2001
met in person April 2002
I've visited twice a year since with the longest being apart 8months July 03 to March 04
He came over here Jan 05 left April 25th 
I go over Oct 27th on a fiancee visa and we will be married end of Feb beginning of March 06'
we will have known each other almost 4 1/2 years by the time we FINALLY get married

How long did you and your brit hubby date before deciding to get married? Before deciding we were going to marry?  A month.  LOL.  But we got engaged after 10 months.

How long did you date long distance before doing so? We got married just shy of our 2 year anniversary of meeting.

What was the longest time apart you spent away from your future hubby? It was 6.5 weeks and it was TORTURE!!!!!!!  Now i've been away from him for 10 days and have NO IDEA how we did it for so long!!!!!!