These stories are horrifying! I feel lucky 'cause I always flew in & out through Manchester (and Leeds-Bradford) and never had any problems at all (though I know there are those who may have had). And I probably said stuff (naively) that would have raised red flags, based on what you're saying, down there at Gatwick...like that I was visiting my boyfriend, we met on the internet, etc... Boy was I dumb! But no probs at all...though I guess I was always very firm about the fact that I had a job in the US, expectant of my return in two weeks, etc. I'm glad to have my FLR now & the only two times they've asked me (with that) if my husband is with me -- he usually has been...but usually it's just 'Welcome home.' In my experience, the male I/O's have been nicer & more friendly than the female ones...which is probably not indicative of anything really other than my experience.