Actually, New-Dawn, I am a successful entrepreneur, artist, and author. For years I sold my work at craft fairs and won prizes. At 50, I went back to school, a one-year program in surface Design/Textile Design that began in NYC, where almost all the jobs in that area are in the US, 10 days before 911, so you can guess the job market we came out to. I went freelance and survived a year and a half on that, but I kept applying for jobs mostly because benefits, particularly healthcare, cost so much for independents in the US, and I got one. So I have three years of earning my income entirely with my art, actually 8, though the other years were just barely getting by. As for the author bit, I have 20 scientific papers to my credit, two craft articles, and assorted poems, interviews and book reviews. I've also copyedited or proofread some 30 books. And actually, everybody I've known who became successful in the arts had to take a time when that was all they did because that's the only way you get good enough to be a professional.
As for professionalism and the false face, in the arts and sciences, and as an editor or proofreader for that matter, you are hired for and expected to express your opinions in no uncertain terms and to be willing and able to defend them. which is part of why these things have been the best fit for me.
As for your third point, I didn't say I didn't ask for more work because I might not like what they offered, though I can see that you might interpret what I said that way. I meant that if you don't really want what working extra hard as a temp might bring you, why do it. If you don't want to be asked to stay, for instance. I said I only take short term temps, because I don't want to stay. The only way I can endure the kinds of jobs temping involves is by constantly switching so there's something different all the time. If I'm temping, unless it's in the arts, I'm not doing work that suits me. I'm simply bringing in some cash to be applied to doing what suits me, and it's what I'd doing after "work" that is my priority, that is really my "work" whether I'm getting paid for it or not.
Ah. You were born here. And you didn't suspend practicality one single little bit to make the leap across the pond to work there? Never have? That's too bad. As for equal partnership, money doesn't have much of anything to do with that, as any number of stay-at-home mothers will tell you.