Loneliness...

Jet-lag?

Don't think much of it, darlin'. It's one hour for every day. You are going to feel a bit off...get some rest and sleep. Drink water.

When you travel? You have to acknowledge jet lag.

This is maturity.

You okay?

Jet-lag?

Don't think much of it, darlin'. It's one hour for every day. You are going to feel a bit off...get some rest and sleep. Drink water.

When you travel? You have to acknowledge jet lag.

This is maturity.

You okay?

I'm sorry, "this is maturity"? I don't quite understand what you mean by that. The rest of your post was friendly but that was just unnecessary.

The only time I am not shy is if you give me stage, a mic, and a grand; ironically enough.  I have been so introverted all my life that I feel like I should be turned inside out by now...so, I can commiserate with the shyness issue. I can stand on a stage in front of how ever many people you want to imagine (it matters not the number), but when it comes to talking and interacting with people socially...well, in that respect, I suffer greatly.

Jamie lost the majority of his so-called friends when he got together with me.  We rarely go out.  I see people at work but my only confidant here is Jamie.  I tell myself that it is ok because I am not a social person; I didn't have more than 2 friends in the States, why should it be different here?  But, I suppose it really isn't balanced, if I admit it.

It's sad that it is like that where you are at Uni.  I live in a University town (Loughborough) and, it seems, like the foreign students are well received and happy (at least the ones who come into buy healthfood seem to be...I haven't heard of this allienation problem here). 

This looks encouraging.  And, I am glad you are feeling better now.  Jet-lag always makes everything look (and feel) worse.  ~HUGS~

Thanks Songmistress!

I don't think anything was meant by that.    That's just the kind of thing us oldies say.  Glad you're feeling better Honeybee.  

I don't think anything was meant by that.    That's just the kind of thing us oldies say.  Glad you're feeling better Honeybee.  

I know, it just seemed kind of condescending, like the kind of thing my mom would say. Considering she doesn't know me, it felt a bit weird. That's okay though. 

I'm sorry, "this is maturity"? I don't quite understand what you mean by that. The rest of your post was friendly but that was just unnecessary.

It was not meant in an offensive way, Honeybee. I'm sorry that you took this wrong. Maturity is just experience. In other words, after you have been through *so* much jet-lag, you mature. You wait out the days.

Ever scuba-dive? It's similar. You have to de-compress.

I don't think anything was meant by that.    That's just the kind of thing us oldies say.  Glad you're feeling better Honeybee.  

Honeybee (and Mindy),

Yes. We're a little older and we say funny things out of maturity. Honeybee, we are concerned for you. So, don't take it wrong.

We older girls are going to be right there for you. We know. We've been there. We older girls are not condenscending.

We've been there. So when we see a younger sistah hurting?...we're right there for you.

The only time I am not shy is if you give me stage, a mic, and a grand; ironically enough.  I have been so introverted all my life that I feel like I should be turned inside out by now...so, I can commiserate with the shyness issue. I can stand on a stage in front of how ever many people you want to imagine (it matters not the number), but when it comes to talking and interacting with people socially...well, in that respect, I suffer greatly.

Jamie lost the majority of his so-called friends when he got together with me.  We rarely go out.  I see people at work but my only confidant here is Jamie.  I tell myself that it is ok because I am not a social person; I didn't have more than 2 friends in the States, why should it be different here?  But, I suppose it really isn't balanced, if I admit it.

It's sad that it is like that where you are at Uni.  I live in a University town (Loughborough) and, it seems, like the foreign students are well received and happy (at least the ones who come into buy healthfood seem to be...I haven't heard of this allienation problem here). 

This looks encouraging.  And, I am glad you are feeling better now.  Jet-lag always makes everything look (and feel) worse.  ~HUGS~

Just saw this--songmistress

I work with musicians and artists and we deal with this shyness issue. Some musicians jump on stage as a given. Other artists have a hard time.

<whispers: I'm not even remotely shy; but I can be in certain situations.>

What I always ask is:

1. Are you ready?
2. Can you perform before 20 thousand?
3. How tight is your act?




 

Honeybee,

Just catching up here on the posts...

'If you have one friend in life you are blessed.'

Take a scuba diving class. Wow, you will learn what a friend is. You don't get a PADI scuba license without knowing what a friend is...

Get the license.

You study like hell...and then you throw your body into the sea. You have to pass all the tests. Your instructor is your best friend as is your diving companion.

You sit on the floor of the ocean and take all your gear off. There is no loneliness on an ocean floor.

Honeybee, I've sent you a PM, I don't know if you have seen it

I understand your situation

- Sari

Hi sariann, I PMed you back. Thanks. 

Just saw this--songmistress

I work with musicians and artists and we deal with this shyness issue. Some musicians jump on stage as a given. Other artists have a hard time.

<whispers: I'm not even remotely shy; but I can be in certain situations.>

What I always ask is:

1. Are you ready?
2. Can you perform before 20 thousand?
3. How tight is your act?




 

Oh, as I said, I have no problem with performing; it is on a stage where I am most comfortable and at ease and where I am at my most confident.  I suppose this is because when I am singing I know that I am doing what I was born to do, what I have always been good at; it is a liberating and freeing experience, I am giving of my gift.  It's when dealing with people, socially, that I get choked up...that's the "tough one" for me.

Oh, as I said, I have no problem with performing; it is on a stage where I am most comfortable and at ease and where I am at my most confident.  I suppose this is because when I am singing I know that I am doing what I was born to do, what I have always been good at; it is a liberating and freeing experience, I am giving of my gift.  It's when dealing with people, socially, that I get choked up...that's the "tough one" for me.

I used to be a bit like this, Autumn, back in my teens and early 20s. Fortunately, I'm over it now! Anyway, I always performed in school plays and in local community theatre, but often in social situations, I'd freeze up. What I did is just pretend that I was acting when I needed to feel more sure of myself. Have you tried that? Just pretend that you're playing the part of "Confident Girl #1"?

I used to be a bit like this, Autumn, back in my teens and early 20s. Fortunately, I'm over it now! Anyway, I always performed in school plays and in local community theatre, but often in social situations, I'd freeze up. What I did is just pretend that I was acting when I needed to feel more sure of myself. Have you tried that? Just pretend that you're playing the part of "Confident Girl #1"?

Good advice.  Sometimes I do pretend I am my mother, who can shine in such situations even if she doesn't feel comfortable in them.  Too much of the time I just forget to play her.

Oh, as I said, I have no problem with performing; it is on a stage where I am most comfortable and at ease and where I am at my most confident.  I suppose this is because when I am singing I know that I am doing what I was born to do, what I have always been good at; it is a liberating and freeing experience, I am giving of my gift.  It's when dealing with people, socially, that I get choked up...that's the "tough one" for me.

Well, that's where I come in.