how many friends have you lost?

I feel like telling my best girlfriend to f-off, now this may be wrong and just out of frustration, but how many of you have felt the same way when here?

She has not been supportive of my move or my rel with my brit bf and my life here. In general, she doesn't seem that way anyway. I don't know what to do, it feels like a chore to stay in touch, any suggestions?

Just back away from the friendship.  Don't burn the bridge just yet. 

I don't know that I've 'lost' friends per se but I've definitely got less people who keep in touch with me or bother to call/email.  It's part of moving away.  Life goes on there without you and it's hard. 

She might be upset that you've left her, your life there together or she may be jealous that you've got something she hasn't (like a life in England, a bf, whatever).  Regardless, just get on with your life here and allow for some growing pains.  If she's your best friend, there's no need to tell her to f-off unless she's done something heinous. 

Hang in there..   

All my friends were supportive of my move but now that I am here, it is like pulling teeth to get them to e-mail me or speak with me longer than 10 minutes on the phone when I call them.  So, just hang in there-it sucks!  But it is hard to keep friendships across country when you're used to seeing them on a regular visit or just picking up the phone whenever to talk. 

I do think it's harder to keep friendships going...but you have to give some people a little more time and expect a bunch less from them.  I know I won't talk to my friends overseas as often as I like due to the time issues (as well as all of us having insanely busy schedules) but we do try to email once in a while.  Hope this works out with your friend!

Just back away from the friendship. Don't burn the bridge just yet.

I second this.

Take some time to think things through, have a chat with her about it and if she's still upsupportive then start to think about breaking the friendship.

She may just be missing you. Some people lash out when they're hurt someone is leaving, it makes things easier for them. She could be doing this.

The only friend I've "lost" was my best friend, but my move wasn't the reason.  She said some pretty horrid things about me and whilst that was the reason I told her to stuff it, living over here made it much easier as we were growing apart anyway.

I keep in touch with the rest of my friends via occasional emails and Christmas cards.  Since I moved over here, all of them have moved out of state (bar one, and he's the kind of guy who can be anywhere at any time...he's just returned an email from Guatemala!), so we wouldn't really see each other that often anyway.

I've always been more of a family person than a friend person, so the transition wasn't that difficult for me.

I have/had a really good friend, I've always felt like she was a true sister to me. I haven't heard from her since I moved here a year ago. She said she out and out didn't agree with me marrying a man from a foreign country and going to move with him while my older children were still at home etc...

She hasn't returned any emails etc. Her birthday was in Aug. I sent her an e-card. I got the confirmation email that she had looked at it, but heard no reply from her...that has been weighing on my mind the past few weeks 

Like Lola Ive always been more of a family person than a friend person and have more or less lost touch with most friends with the exception of one, and we have been best friends since we were 12, so I imagine a ocean isn't going to stop that even if we don't talk to each other all of the time.     And it's the same with my family. We might not talk every day but that doesn't mean I care any less or expect them not to have lives and go about it. It involves a lot of adjustment on both parts. Good luck. 

I second this.

Take some time to think things through, have a chat with her about it and if she's still upsupportive then start to think about breaking the friendship.

She may just be missing you. Some people lash out when they're hurt someone is leaving, it makes things easier for them. She could be doing this.

That's what I went through with a friend/writing partner.  She couldn't have been more excited or supportive when I told her what I was going to do, but as it came closer and closer to happening, she became nearly bi-polar to the point I didn't know who I was dealing with one day to the next - one day, supportive and excited for me, the next - snapped at me and said really nasty things.
Only time I've heard from her since the move (about 18 months now) is when she sent me an email saying that her "women's group has told me I should forgive you for what you've done to me, so I forgive you." 
Apparently she "quit the business because of" me... she also lives across the building from my former roommate whom I stay with at Christmas, and last time she would not even answer the door when I went to talk to her.
So, as they've said above, I'm trying to keep it open if she ever decides to... lighten up and get over it... and I need to let go of my own resentment that she didn't support me through the biggest change of my life when I needed her.
You just gotta do what you gotta do, and hope the good ones will stick with you.
All my other friends from back home are in regular contact with me, and even some I've grown 'closer' to through email and telephone calls... so you never know.

I'm not the type of person that has lots of friends, just a very small number of people that I am close to. We still make an effort to keep in touch.  I understand that between the time difference and being busy most of the the day, I am hard to get in contact with. Everyone I know has been supportive of my move. If I haven't heard from someone in awhile, I'm sure it's because of logistics, not because that person is angry with me.

When it comes to friendship, I think quality is more important than quantity.

My husband is my best friend anyway.

update:

I wrote her an email and things are better. Not that we actually talked things out, but she said she did support my move, but it was difficult to keep in touch b/c of the time and how busy we both are. I got so much support from my other friends that I felt her response just wasn't the same.  I don't think she and I will be as close as we used to be, but we'll remain friends nonetheless. It's just another adjustment to this wonderful change in my life  I'm glad she and I are good again. thank you everyone for your responses, feel free to share more.

update:

I wrote her an email and things are better. Not that we actually talked things out, but she said she did support my move, but it was difficult to keep in touch b/c of the time and how busy we both are. I got so much support from my other friends that I felt her response just wasn't the same.  I don't think she and I will be as close as we used to be, but we'll remain friends nonetheless. It's just another adjustment to this wonderful change in my life  I'm glad she and I are good again. thank you everyone for your responses, feel free to share more.

I'm glad things are working out. 

I've  misplaced a few from time to time but they usually end up having been put away with the Christmas decorations.

I'm having a hard time with my friends back home right now.  Like someone said before... life just keeps going on there as usual.  I hear all about the dinners out, going to shows, everything I used to be a part of.  And being here it is really difficult because I don't have friends like that here.  I haven't made any friends at all.  I do have some really nice co-workers... but nobody who knows me like my friends back home did.

I'm getting really frustrated because I rarely get e-mails or phone calls.  I've sent numerous e-mails, telephoned, sent packages and all sorts and I barely hear a peep.
It has been really difficult for me lately.

On top of that, the frustrations of settling in, being poor, not being able to secure a full time job... I'm a basket case!

I'm having a hard time with my friends back home right now.  Like someone said before... life just keeps going on there as usual.  I hear all about the dinners out, going to shows, everything I used to be a part of.  And being here it is really difficult because I don't have friends like that here.  I haven't made any friends at all.  I do have some really nice co-workers... but nobody who knows me like my friends back home did.

I'm getting really frustrated because I rarely get e-mails or phone calls.  I've sent numerous e-mails, telephoned, sent packages and all sorts and I barely hear a peep.
It has been really difficult for me lately.

On top of that, the frustrations of settling in, being poor, not being able to secure a full time job... I'm a basket case!

It is hard sometimes.  I just started making friends in Brum and now I have to move to London.  And I miss home a lot at times.  Where in the UK do you live?