Sorry if this offends young teenage mothers

I was watching desperate midwives tonight and they featured at 15yr old girl having a baby,and they said she has 2 sisters ages 14 and 17 who also have kids but they were 12 and 16 when they had their babies.... 12 years old!!!!
 What bugged me and Dale is the 15yr old mum was saying how her mother gets up early ,takes care of all the babies,cleans,cooks,and works, all I could think of is how much of a lazy cow that teen mum is! Not to offend anyone here but in my opinion,if you're not old enough to work then don't have sex.
Oh!!! and the mum of the young mums said its the schools fault because it provided poor sex education. .....
Soooooooo... her barely teenage daughters getting pregnant has nothing to do with the mum not teaching her daughters about sex,because she expects the schools to do it for her! I wonder how old she was when she got knocked up
 I remember reading about that family in The Sun awhile ago, they receive £600 a week in benefits ,they pay almost nothing for rent,and they want more money! That is really takin the piss.

Ok I'm done my rant

I remember reading about that family in The Sun awhile ago, they receive £600 a week in benefits ,they pay almost nothing for rent,and they want more money! That is really takin the piss.

I agree with you. I don't like paying for somebody else's "youthful indiscretion."

I agree with you. I don't like paying for somebody else's "youthful indiscretion."

Wholeheartedly agree, spent my whole adulthood from 17 paying taxes to support these skanks.

So where were the dads in the programme? Oh let me guess ... Seems to me they are just as skanky as the girls.

Oh let me guess ... Seems to me they are just as skanky as the girls.

Absolutely. I'm not absolving them of responsibility at all!

So where were the dads in the programme? Oh let me guess ... Seems to me they are just as skanky as the girls.

One of the 'dads' is 39-years-old.  He should be in jail.  He fathered a child w/the middle child when she was 15. 

I had to have an emergency scan a few weeks back - all was well, the baby was just too active for the midwife to trace its heartbeat w/a doppler - and was astonished at the number of young mothers-to-be nipping outside to smoke a cigarette from the waiting room. 

 

One was with her partner, and when her mum asked him what had happened to his job, he replied that he'd quit it b/c it was 'too much work'.  Oh, okay, so that's a reason to be unemployed!  It's okay for the rest of us to take on 'too much work' whilst this bloke lazed around buying fags and fathering more babies.   

My SIL lives w/a man who has NEVER had a legit job (selling drugs doesn't count).  He'll be 40 in December.  His excuse?  He doesn't get along w/people. 

My SIL lives w/a man who has NEVER had a legit job (selling drugs doesn't count). He'll be 40 in December. His excuse? He doesn't get along w/people.

Wow - can you get benefits citing this as a reason you're not working?  Because I have ILR now, and I don't "get along" with most people, either...

Wow - can you get benefits citing this as a reason you're not working?  Because I have ILR now, and I don't "get along" with most people, either...

He gets incapacity benefit b/c he's 'depressed'.  Think he might be income support as well.  She does.  She was miffed at DH's mum and dad b/c they wouldn't pay £13 for her to have her hamster put down - it had kidney failure - even though they knew she was 'short on cash'.  Hmmm, maybe if she and her partner didn't spend £35/week on cigarettes they might have some spare cash.

What's sad is she has two sons.  And last year she promised she was going to take them on the big ferris wheel they put up every year at Xmas in Prince's Street.  So she takes them up there, and then finds out it costs a fiver each (duh!).  She said she couldn't take them b/c then she wouldn't have money for fags.  She also wanted her parents to pay for her sons to be on a football team.  They're pensioners w/diabetes, ffs! 

She wears Diesel and FCUK clothes but doesn't have the money to pay for them to do anything.

And here we are wearing clothes from charity shops so we can pay for our daughter to go to swimming lessons and Tumble Tots and buy fish oil and vitamin supplements for her.

My SIL lives w/a man who has NEVER had a legit job (selling drugs doesn't count).  He'll be 40 in December.  His excuse?  He doesn't get along w/people. 
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Wow...my ex is almost 43, he doesn't like working either (because if he did he would have to pay child support!)...He is finally working, and I submitted a claim to my state for collection, and when he found out he called me livid (first time he had called here since I moved here a year ago) and threatened to quit the job if I didn't call the state off from garnishing his wages. I told him that I wasn't getting anything anyway...so how was that a threat? He has two kids from his first marriage too...never paid to them either. Where do these guys get this idea from?

Not to offend anyone suffering from real clinical depression, but the fact that it is so EASILY used as a reason to avoid honest work makes me sick.

Not to offend anyone suffering from real clinical depression, but the fact that it is so EASILY used as a reason to avoid honest work makes me sick.

No I see where you are coming from.  My ex-husband really does suffer from severe clinical depression, inherited from his father's side of hte family.  He's on meds forever, constantly having to change them, adjust dosages, etc.  He still manages a full-time job as the client relations executive for a busy firm.  In fact, he said if he sat around at home he'd probably kill himself. 

Some people need to get their priorities straight that's for sure.   I feel guilty thinking about spending my Boots poitns on make up when I could be buying something for Ethan!

Back to the programme - which I did not see - too often the media concentrates on the solo/teenage mum whilst the dad gets nary a mention. The 39 year old wants more than jail, he wants shooting if you aks me! (Calm down Fathers for Justice, I'm not 100% serious).   

One thing I did find interesting when I was pregnant was how the hospital went out of it's way not to offend any UNMARRIED mothers. All correspondence came addressed to Ms. Well I am not Ms Married Name.  I am Mrs Married Name and I found it quite annoying.  Not only that, anytime my husband came along to midwife appointments etc he was asked if he was my boyfriend or partner, hardly ever my husband.  Ok well I can cope with the irritation factor, but if the state treats fathers as if they need not be married to the mother, then why should they (the mothers or the fathers)  think any different? I haven't written this as best I could but hope I'm getting the point across.

OMG, Britwife!  When I was in hospital after having Aillidh, the midwives kept referring to Andrew as 'my man' - not even boyfriend or partner!  'Is you man coming along today?' 

Britwife, I think you put it very well.  I completely agree.

When we make the assumption that the "family unit" is made up of singular people rather than actually being a "UNIT" - that's where things have been going so wrong.

I never got offended, when I was a single mother, with people assuming I was married.  I AM offended, now being married, when people assume my husband is my "partner." 

Back to the programme - which I did not see - too often the media concentrates on the solo/teenage mum whilst the dad gets nary a mention.

In the show they mentioned how none of the fathers were in the childs life and how the boys wanted nothing to do with the girl or the baby. that doesn't surprise me though.
They didn't mention that 39yr old on the show though. That is just disgusting! If any 39yr old touched my teenage daughter, I'd probably end up in jail
 I do blame the mother however. because she let these boys sleep over in the house thinking nothing will happen