Oh the shame..............

Today a fellow co-worker approached me and said "stephanie, are you putting on weight?" I thought she's confused, her English isn't too good.. So I said "no, i'm dieting, i've actually lost weight over the summer".. to which she kindof scrutinised my stomach and said "no it looks like you're putting on weight. Is there something you want to tell me?"  HAHA. Pregnancy jokes.

The worst is that there were male teachers stood around smirking as they eavesdropped....

I did one last attempt at defending myself by saying "these trousers are very baggy and they might be making me look bigger...." but she'd just shook her head and wandered off at this point.

I have told half the staff here at work this and we have had a good giggle about it but man, does that sting!

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  that is just RUDE!!!!!

I want to slap that biznatch up

she's probabally jealous!

That's terrible! Such ignorance!
You should have said to her "Yes, thanks for noticing! I'm trying to put on 2 stone by the new year" and then rolled your eyes and walked away.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  that is just RUDE!!!!!

I want to slap that biznatch up

she's probabally jealous!

LOL. Maybe it was the same woman that came to your office today, Aimiloo! 

Oh.  My.  Gawd.   

What the *bleep* is wrong with people?

I actually find it funny. I think because i've lost some weight and i'm feeling quite good now. I'm wearing a pair of low trousers with a very hugging v neck sweater vest that really, doesn't make me look pregnant at all because I have lost off of my stomach and I came to work feeling quite jolly....

It's paranoid the sh*t out of my larger colleagues here though!

Maybe it's a cultural thing? She is Indian so maybe their culture is a bit more.... DIRECT?  I just said to everyone:  "bloody foreigners!"  which they thought amusing from the yankee doodle...

I actually find it funny. I think because i've lost some weight and i'm feeling quite good now. I'm wearing a pair of low trousers with a very hugging v neck sweater vest that really, doesn't make me look pregnant at all because I have lost off of my stomach and I came to work feeling quite jolly....

It's paranoid the sh*t out of my larger colleagues here though!

Maybe it's a cultural thing? She is Indian so maybe their culture is a bit more.... DIRECT?  I just said to everyone:  "bloody foreigners!"  which they thought amusing from the yankee doodle...

Maybe it is. When I was working in Seoul one of my students mothers said to me "Ricki you really gained weight!" I was 125lbs soaking wet but the Koreans are stick insects as a rule so maybe to her I was huge.

I would have put on this dramatic, 'OMG!  How RUDE!  I can't believe you just said that to me!  My gawd, do you just have absolutely no manners or what!?' 

Wow, rude people all around by the way it sounds!!! I don't even know what I would have said to that, I was at a loss for words just reading it! 

I have a work colleague who used to scrutinize my lunches, tell me I would never be a stick insect and insist that whatever weight I was at when I became sexually active would be the weight I would hover around as an adult. (Yes, I'm serious). Finally I said to her, 'Jane, it's such a relief to me to have you around to provide this constant medical advice. I don't know how I've managed all these years.'  Well, she was speechless and so was everyone else in the staff room. Since then I have gone from 171 to 147 before her eyes and she has absolutely nothing to say to me other than the occasional, 'I certainly wish I had your willpower.'

Some people!

I have a work colleague who used to scrutinize my lunches, tell me I would never be a stick insect and insist that whatever weight I was at when I became sexually active would be the weight I would hover around as an adult. (Yes, I'm serious).

What? God, don't I wish!!!!

I have no qualms about fronting twits like this. 

I was on a bus once, standing b/c there were no more seats, and this blind fella got on.  And this young gal didn't want to get up and move her seat for him! 

I gasped, OMG!  I can't believe someone would be sooooo dang rude as to make a blind person stand up in a bus, taht is SO shocking!

She got up and jumped out of the bus.

I agree that "are you putting on weight" is not the cleverest thing to say, but there are times when I see a woman and I can't tell if she is actually pregnant or just has a tummy bulge.  I know that I am not the only one who has experienced this. I know other people who have embarrassed themselves by asking "so when are you due?" questions, and it turns out that the woman wasn't pregnant.  There have also been times when I've been on the train and seen a woman with a slight bulge and wanted to offer my seat, but wasn't sure if she would get angry because I was acting like I thought she was pregnant when she wasn't.

Expat, I agree that the blind man shouldn't have been left standing, but why did you single out the young girl out of everyone on the bus? Is it because she was young? How do you know she didn't have a physical disability herself? Not all disabilities are visible. She could have had chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, AIDS, lupus etc.

I agree that "are you putting on weight" is not the cleverest thing to say, but there are times when I see a woman and I can't tell if she is actually pregnant or just has a tummy bulge.  I know that I am not the only one who has experienced this. I know other people who have embarrassed themselves by asking "so when are you due?" questions, and it turns out that the woman wasn't pregnant.  There have also been times when I've been on the train and seen a woman with a slight bulge and wanted to offer my seat, but wasn't sure if she would get angry because I was acting like I thought she was pregnant when she wasn't.

Exactly why I NEVER, EVER bring up anybody's weight or possible pregnant state until/unless they do.  I don't ever ask 'so when are you due' unless the person has told me she's expecting, even if she looks 8-1/2 months pregnant.  If it's a friend or family member and they want me to know, they'll tell me.  Otherwise, it's none of my business!

(Sorry, one of my pet peeves....)

Expat, I agree that the blind man shouldn't have been left standing, but why did you single out the young girl out of everyone on the bus? Is it because she was young? How do you know she didn't have a physical disability herself? Not all disabilities are visible. She could have had chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, AIDS, lupus etc.

Do you always try to turn everything into an argument or use a defensive, accusatory tone with everyone you come across?  Because it sure does come across that way.   

It was b/c the man's dog is trained to go to the first seat on the left side (I found that out by asking him).  Hers.  And someone wearing 3 in. stillettos and yaking at top volume on a mobile about going clubbing that night probably doesn't have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, etc.  In fact, she huffed out w/o any sign of it being a trouble to her.

Satisfied now?  Any more accusations to make?