How soon...

...after marriage did you have a baby?  Just curious!

Nearly 13 months. 

Four years.

I meant to ask as well, was it a planned or unplanned pregnancy?

I was 8 months pregnant when I was married. Unplanned, but wasn't an accident,more of a miracle then anything

We got pregnant on purpose 3 months after our wedding, and I gave birth to Philip just days after our first wedding anniversary.

Well there's more to why I'm asking than just out of curiosity..

DH and I want to have a baby but we've only been married a month.  We're thinking of TTC sometime after the new year.  Our reasoning is A) DH is about 7 years older than me and he wants to have a baby before he turns 30, and he's almost 29 and B) I want to go back to school in 3 years and I'm thinking I would much rather have a 3-4 yr. old in nursery than an infant while I'm in school, and by the time I graduate school I'll be applying for full-time work and starting my profession around the time the baby would be almost ready to go to reception which would be easier to have a professional life than with a small baby.

But I'm worried, too, that we haven't had enough "alone" time, (even though we're about to get full custody of his other two children from a previous marriage) and that we'll regret starting so soon after getting married.

Hmmm............I know it's up to each individual couple but does anyone have advice? 

I know it's up to each individual couple but does anyone have advice? 

Yes, and that is to make your own decision together w/your spouse as to what you think will be best for the two of you and your future child.  Maybe even draw up a list of pros and cons.

That was a big owrry for David & I as well. We had only lived together - all said - for about 6 months, though we had dated a lot longer than that. I think it is a valid worry for couples,  but like you said - each couple is different and what works for us might not work for you. For US, we don't feel as though we missed out on anything. TO begin with, we love Philip millions and billions, and we love having him as our family. But also? We've made a real point to be near family/friends/support that could help us with Philip when we need it. We are quite happy to leave Philip for a few hours or overnight with grandparents or family so that David & I *can* have alone time. It doesn't happen as often as it used to obviously, but when it does, we enjoy it so much more. Not everyone has the option of alone time without their hcild though, especially if they are more isolated, but there are always ways. The baby does sleep on occasion, and if you make an effort to have quality time with your husband when you can, even if it is at night when the baby is sleeping and all you do is have a good cuddle, those kinds of things can go a really long way.

We had DS 1 month before our 1 year anniversery.  We'd been trying before we got married, but things didn't slow down enough til then.  I don't miss the alone time because DH works so much there wasn't that much alone time to begin with. 

The thing is, I KNOW we would make great parents together...we've already had a taste of parenting as a team with his other two, and even when they're here with us we still have time to cuddle and everything  ...maybe this will change when we get them full time, I don't know, we'll have to see, but right now and for the last 8 months we've been great.

I think the things that's giving me the most doubts is my mother, to be honest.  She is a *bit* bitter after having two failed marriages and is completely skeptical and doubtful when it comes to having a successful marriage.  She's basically pounded it into my brain that DH and I need to wait atleast 2 years before TTC or else our marriage is doomed and we will always regret it.  

She's basically pounded it into my brain that Leigh and I need to wait atleast 2 years before TTC or else our marriage is doomed and we will always regret it. 

Well, it doesn't take looking very far to find cases where the exact opposite has happened. You know yourself and your relationship better than anyone else does - even your own parents - do what is best for YOU guys.

Honestly, it's a VERY personal decision and one that should be left entirely to you and your spouse - in-laws regardless. 

Honestly, it's a VERY personal decision and one that should be left entirely to you and your spouse - in-laws regardless. 

Couldn't agree more.  That said, DF and I have 2 children already and aren't getting married until September.  My Dad said the same thing about having 2 years together before having kids.  Didn't quite follow his advice, and I am quite happy with how things turned out.  Just do what you think is best for the two of you.

With the exhusbeast we waited nearly five years before having Jordan and three years later we had Brett.

With Frank, the non beast, we got pregnant with Coby on our wedding night. I swear! Do the math!!    
Then two years later we had Jack.