Okay, I've formed a plan.

My last message is a few posts down.  I have an update.

I have access to an inheritance fund of several thousand dollars.  We called the consulate in New York and asked the officer about the invalidity benefit situation.

The woman said that as long as I have proof I have access to this fund, we'll financially be okay for the visa.  

So I think things, while still a bit iffy, have a much better outlook.

We're going to the registry office tomorrow to book our wedding date.  

Thanks to all of you - you alerted me to some issues that I would never have known to work out.  This has been invaluable, and I'll be sure to let you know how things turn out.

Now, does anyone have any advice on getting over a fear of flying?

Now, does anyone have any advice on getting over a fear of flying?

Please, if someone does, I'm dying to hear it!!

Most doctors will prescribe you a few tranquilizers for things like fear of flying when you absolutely MUST fly.