Never been homesick...

I don't mean to be crass, but all the sad messages posted on this board got me thinking: am I the only person who NEVER feels homesick?

It's not that I don't miss my family or friends, because occasionally I do. But I doesn't really bother me. Part of the reason may be because I'm not particularly close to my "immediate family". I'm much closer to my old friends, a few distant relatives and especially my wife's family. Plus I travel a lot for business so I'm often on the road. I've never felt "weird" about living alone, or going alone to a pub, restaurant or movie, etc.  I've even vacationed alone.

My wife is even better at it than me because she has a very A-type personality and can make new friends at the drop of a hat. Within a month in London, we had already made several good friends and been invited to people's homes for dinner parties, etc.  Finally, both of us were so utterly disgusted with the direction the country is heading that neither of us has any desire to return to the US anytime soon.

But both our carefree wanderlust personalities makes it difficult on our families. My mom and sisters are constantly moaning/crying about us having moved overseas, even though they never made any effort to visit us when we lived in the states just 30 miles away. And my wife's sister, who never travels because of her various airplane phobias, is having a VERY difficult time adjusting to the separation and routinely calls us crying at 2am.

So I'm just curious if anyone else is in the same boat, and how you deal with the family members who make you feel guilty for not feeling homesick!?!

I'm with you on that. I am never homesick. I'm not close with my family either. And we have no desire to ever live in the US. Theres not one thing that I miss about the states. I don't have any family members who make me feel guilty currently. But back when I was on speaking terms with my mother she would always ask "why would u want to leave the best country in the world" and I'd answer, "because of people like you who have that mindset"

No, you aren't the only one.  I suspect that is down to the fact that I have no immediate family left in the US.  Sure I miss certain things from home (convenience, certain foods), but not once in seven years have I ever suffered from homesickness. 

I don't mean to be crass, but all the sad messages posted on this board got me thinking: am I the only one never feels homesick?

I've been here 20 years, and have never, ever felt homesick.   On the contrary, when i arrived here, i felt that i had finally found 'home'... as corny as that sounds.

I dont miss my family or old friends... i think about them occasionally, and email them, but i dont 'miss' them.   I'm actually a wee bit fed up with them, cos over the last 20 years, i am the only one who has ever made any effort to visit them ( i go back every 3 or 4 years for a week... and a week is TOO LONG!), but they've never come over to see me.

My parents have moved away from the area where i grew up, so even when i do visit, it's like going to visit some weird place... not a place i formerly thought of as 'home'.

Life's too short for guilt... dont let them get to you. 

I'm never homesick, but then I go home all the time to visit.  I'm sure I will be as soon as the baby comes and I can't travel as often.

Put me on the list.
I just knew what I wanted and went for it, and have also been extremely lucky to have a plethora of incredibly supportive friends back home who make the effort to stay in touch... and the move has even put me back in touch with those whom I'd lost contact with - they apparently are better at email than phone calls, etc. - whatever the reason.
And the fact my mother calls me WAY too often...
I just know I got things to do, and I'll keep in touch, and see 'em when I see 'em.
Because I've also got a plethora of excellent, supportive friends here as well.
 

umm I do get homesick. Not for ppl..but for places and things...the certain way the air smells or feels...more for sites and sounds....or maybe it is more for the tangible things I grew up with.

I am and will probably always be a over emotional person....

I know I probably dont count since I havent actually left home yet (!) but I know I will miss San Francisco, not the crime, homeless people or politics of this big city, but the city itself.  I will miss friends, but not all of them.  Most of my friends are jealous Im moving to England and cant wait to come visit!  And if they dont come visit, well, I figure its there loss!

When I am finally in Bristol, I know I will have found home.  Home is where the heart is....

*raises hand*

I not at all homesick. I am like you, and can do just about anything alone, and it simply doesn't bother me.

I really did not like my old situation, which may make a difference. There is no art, no culture, no nothing for me in Vegas, except family, and I had been in my mother's house too long. Some people on this board have tried to make me feel almost guilty for not being homesick, but I cannot control it. Everyone is different. 

I kinda don't want to go home for a month next Tuesday.  Of course, it isn't Christmas  for me if I am alone, but a month, a whole month from London!

Aww No one should make you feel guilty about feelings you should or shouldn't have..every one is different.

I would probably miss the IoM more than I ever have Oklahoma.

Aww No one should make you feel guilty about feelings you should or shouldn't have..every one is different.

Ditto!!!  Don't listen to them!

Sometimes I think it would be nice to be able to talk to my family in person, but I never feel like I'd rather be there than here.

Today I went to a training session with a sales manager who deals with equity release projects, and he was talking about sales to old people, about the way old people act and things they like to talk about, and it reminded me of my parents because they are in their late 70s. But it didn't make me sad, just happy to be reminded of them.

I think there are some people who are just more home-attached. I remember many years ago, when I went to summer camp, there was a girl who became very sick because she wouldn't eat any food that wasn't prepared in her home.

Well, my parents are getting on in age, and I fear that I won't be there for them, when they need taking care of. In that respect, I get homesick. Last time I was home to visit, I was surprised at how old my mom looked. And I worry about her, because she has problems with her vision, yet she still drives!! I am sure that she could not pass a driving test, she gets it renewed through the mail. My sister was at their house for thanksgiving, and totally cleaned my mom's kitchen floor, my mom can't see the dirt! So, my Dad called my sis, and offered her $300.00 a month, if she would come and help my mom clean the house one day a month. I was like wishing, I  was back home!!
$300.00 a month for one days work........I  would not take the pay, but my sis, who can be a bit lazy, and wants to sleep in with her cats on her days off, would take excuses not to go and help, except for the pay. Oh, I just wish I was there to help my mom, free of pay. My Dad told my sis, "I can't live like this"  and I just wonder how it makes my mom feel. Cus she has always been a control freak. She would always just take over.......how many times did she come to my apartment, and yell at me for it not being clean. Oh poopoo, now I'm crying...........who started this thread anyway??

I've been living here in Sweden for nearly 6 years soon, never felt homesick here, and will be moving to the UK next year, where I've lived before and really enjoyed it, and I imagine I'll be just fine there as well, since I was before.

Even were my parents still alive, when I lived in the UK before, they came and visited.  I'm the one that tried very hard to keep up with my U.S. so-called friends, via e-mail and phone calls, but since it was a totally one-way street, I figured they weren't that good of friends after all, so I've made new ones here that DO keep in touch, even when I'm out of the country.

Still, it's my theory that only about 15 percent of any given population is truly flexible anyway and I believe that flexability is a real key to happiness when you move out of your home country (or even to another state).

Add me to the list. I've never been homesick. I miss some friends and family from time to time, but I've never once thought "I want to go home."

Otterpop's right, life's far too short to live with guilt. At the end of the day, you have to live for yourself. I'm lucky that my family has never tried to make me feel bad for coming here. If they did I think it would just push me away emotionally as well as physically....