FINALLY! - I just got a phone call from the NY consulate!
The person I spoke to told me that my passport has been there since Friday Dec 2 waiting for me to pick up. I had to explain to him the whole situation again - that no one had phoned us to tell us it was ready like they said they would, and I didn't receive an email until Monday, by this time we had to return to my home state. I phoned the Enquiry line to find out how to get my passport. They said send $12 money order with a cover letter which I did, and I also told him it was received on Tuesday at 11am and with the person's name that signed for it. Since then no one has sent out my passport or has returned our calls and we have been calling daily to find out where my passport is.
He apologized for the mix up and gave me a fedx number and said it would be fedx'd today and gave me the number
When speaking to him, I gathered that no one was aware of the money order and cover letter. He made no reference to it. He just sounded confused as to why I hadn't picked up my passport yet because it's been ready since Dec 2 - until I explained why. Oddly enough, the Enquiry line had it in their system stating that the money order had been received on Tuesday.
He asked if I received a white card (not sure what that is for), I said no - the only thing we received was a torn piece of paper with our visa application number on it (and being told they'll phone us when it's ready). That was it.
So, after many phone calls and $$$ on those phone calls, I'm finally getting it tomorrow!
