Inconvenient Annoyances

So Jewlz, what happens if you just stop planning and suggesting things for a week or so?

I know guys are wired differently, but IMHO, they are perfectly capable of at least planning to take you out to dinner or something. Seriously. They are adults, this isn't complicated!

I guess I've been fortunate that the men I've been with have managed to do these things. Clearly I've had other issues with them, though!

Jenn- you are right he did.  But, it wasn't to make up for Opening Night- it was for him being too busy with his mates and never calling me.  I think he realized he was being an idiot. But, it made me very, very happy nonetheless.  Let's see if he remembers for the first show I do in the UK.  But, it won't be the end of world if he doesn't.  

Ugh.... I made a comment that I'd like to do something this year for my birthday, since last year I went to someone else's birthday party and ended up feeling like $hit and crying all day the next day because I missed my friends (we went with some of DH's friends to another party, they all brought cards for that other person and didn't bring me any, even though they knew it was my birthday, too, and hardly anyone spoke to me, and seeing someone else having a terrific birthday with all their friends when I didn't even have one friend completely broke my heart.) DH completely took that as a personal insult against him and got all defensive and upset. 

And now I'm upset thinking about how he never, ever plans for us to do anything or thinks of anything to do. Just once, it would be great for him to suggest something like, "Why don't we go to the movies today, or have lunch somewhere?" I'm always the one who has to complain that I need a date with him and try to organise something. Grrr. Men. 

Aww, why do you have to live so far away? I'd love to do something for your birthday for you, even if it was a little cake or something. If you want to come down to London, you're welcome!

My boyfriend is always the worst at suggesting or planning stuff, and it is a cause of friction. I just want him to say "I found this great museum" or something, instead I plan everything, if I don't, we would never see our friends or go anywhere.
Sometimes I do the wrong thing and get passive aggressive about it and just say " I don't know, what do you want to do?" until he comes up with suggestions, but that really upsets him and makes him annoyed, but like... It's so annoying, why do I have to decide EVERYTHING?

It's my birthday on the 27th July and his parents are here, I know it's going to be awful already. I don't like a big fuss, but I do like something, he's already said "what do you want to do for your birthday, remember my parents will be here?" and tried to make me plan my own birthday WITH his parents in mind :/
He's rubbish about presents, it drives me mad, he was going to buy me some tools and stuff for my bicycle, I was like wtf, I don't want tools for my birthday, thankfully I intercepted that one. I don't want useful things!

I may just disappear for the day with my credit card to Oxford Street to avoid all of them.

I don't want useful things!

I may just disappear for the day with my credit card to Oxford Street to avoid all of them.

Perfect!!!
I am thinking we are all July/Aug babies? do we see a theme here?
Jewlz - 8/8
Me - 23/8
CB - 28/7
Mirra -19/7

Except Sarah Miss Nov.  I wonder if the *signs* shine thru ;-)

The stupid GP at the surgery I go to,make assumptions about me!!

I went in for a medical problem I'm having and he says "do you drink" I said no. and then he says "how much cannabis do you smoke", I said "what?...None!" he looks over at me ,and gives me a look of disbelief  and says "Are you sure....?"

yes as*hole, I am pretty sure I don't smoke that crap.

Hey lets judge the girl whos heavily tattooed and make assumptions that just because shes covered in ink, she must do drugs!

what a wanker

Cheer up, Jewlz and all you other birthday girls.  You may find as the boys get older it won't be so much about "forgetting" or being "too busy" or even not thinking of it.  They get to a point where they don't "believe" in all that "commercialized twaddle"  They don't want anything for their birthdays, thank you very much, so why should you want any celebration.
I'm reminded of the "As Time Goes By" episode where Jean tells Lionel she wants a surprise and then realizes it's no good if she has to tell him. Lionel assumes she means it when she says not to bother but Alistair sets him right. Maybe what we need is an Alistair to explain these things to them 

Just out of curiosity Mirra and Jewlz, do your men come from families with sisters?  The boy has an older brother, but no sisters.  Maybe this makes some sort of a difference.   

Mine's an only child.  Explains it all (and then some).

Haha... looks like I sparked something with my rant this morning! 

First of all, he's the youngest of four boys and has a very "thrifty" mother who pinches pennies, so he tends to do the same. (Read: tight-fisted!) Secondly, he doesn't give a lick about his birthday at all and never even hints at what he might want. I swear the man would forget his own birthday if I didn't mention it. So he doesn't see the big deal at all.

However, I have explained that I have a LOT of friends in the states, many I have had for 20 years, and birthdays are generally kind of a big deal. We all meet up or go out and do something. We don't always give gifts, but we do chip in for dinner and drinks, etc., usually. Obviously, I don't have that many friends here and the ones I do have don't exactly live near me  so my birthday has ended up being the most depressing holiday of the year for me and the time I usually feel homesick. I might feel less like that if he offered to take me out on a romantic date and did something to make it special and start a new tradition for me. Surprises are always lovely, but I don't see that happening EVER, so I have even expressly stated what I would like for my birthday and where it can be found... lol. Please order Pandora bracelet from ____ site and I would also like these charms to go with it. Fair enough. I probably still won't get it because it's kind of expensive, and also, he'd have to actually remember to order it. 

But, as an update, he did come and see me this morning, apologized for being defensive this morning, and said, "We should do something nice for just the two of us this year. You make the arrangements, ok?" LOL... well, at least we are halfway there and I guess I can handle the rest. 

My IA is I feel tired all of the time here lately 

OK, I know the NHS is free and awesome and everything, but can it just make sense, please?

Aug 5 I'm having cataract surgery on one eye, which will mean my current glasses won't work anymore and my eyes will be massively different (left- really crappy, right - as good as possible). Surgeon said I should get contact lenses for my left eye so that it's fully corrected and my eyes "match".

Today I call to verify that I have an appointment to see a contact lens person, and I do....but it's on Aug 10. I bring up the whole "but I won't be able to see between Aug 5 and Aug 10" thing, and they basically tell me I'm screwed and can't get any appointments sooner. Great.

It's one thing to recommend a week of recovery post-surgery for healing, etc, it's an entirely different matter to basically require one because I won't be able to see well enough to go anywhere even if I wanted to.

It's one thing to recommend a week of recovery post-surgery for healing, etc, it's an entirely different matter to basically require one because I won't be able to see well enough to go anywhere even if I wanted to.

That stinks. 

I got a couple IA's 1. I forgot to get my porkchops out of the freezer this morning so now my dinner I had planned I'm not having now I was really looking forward to it was well grrr!      2. While I was almost finished with my gym routine I had a unwelcomed visitor thank you Aunt Flow      thankfully I had on black tracky bottoms. I'm having the cramps from H*ll feels like someone kicked me in my kidneys with steel toed boots on cause I didn't have Aunt Flow last month thank you again PCOS grrr!!   

My pet-project has been given to my colleague, apparently I'm too important to move off the early stage game I'm currently producing and he's feeling "disengaged" anyway so needs something to "cheer him up"

Oh right, so I get to toil for a year to bring something to the brink of coolness and glory, then someone else gets to do the fun rewarding finishing bit whilst I have to take on another new title and do all the hard slog to get it going because my colleague is a miserable git?

Thanks a lot work, I hate you today, you've made me sad.

1-Not having any time to sit and surf.
2-Even if I did the internet connection in our new house is crap!  BT refuses to do anything until 10 days has passed since they turned it on.  I loathe BT!!!

I completely sympathise with the birthday thing. mine's on the 2nd of august and I doubt we'll do anything because our anniversary is the 24th so we'll combine them. Last year was my 30th and I was really depressed because my parents didn't even bother calling me. one sister didn't even send an email... I hope you all have good birthdays. Maybe a end of summer joint birthday bash is in order?

Today's been a bad day so I've got a few lol
1) I had to deal with difficult people who can't do their jobs, and I have absolutely no patience these days.
2) get into work and find someone nitpicked a report I had modified for SOMEONE else and I got to spend hours fixing it because the lines in the other person's table weren't the same thickness and it had to be done today to meet a deadline.
3) get home, start dinner and end up covering the kitchen floor in frozen peas and mushrooms. Then I poured the sauce from our casserole all over the floor. Luckily the kitten likes frozen peas and sausage casserole sauce.

Thank goodness I can justify a 9pm bedtime.