Inconvenient Annoyances

I had a terrible Thanksgiving yesterday. So terrible that right now, while still stewing about it, I want to just skip doing anything next year if I'm not back in the states visiting my family. The IA is that I'm still in a dark mood over yesterday and I can't shake it. I really don't like letting things get to me like this because life's much too short to live in a foul mood. 

Apparently nobody here knows what to do with someone who is married and doesn't share a last name with their spouse.

Weird, maybe it's a small town vs big city thing? Because I've also kept my surname and had zero issues here in London - no one even bats an eye, but I had tos of problems when I was in (small town) PA a few months ago. No one could sort out what my name was, literally every conceivable combination that wasn't, err, the same name I've had for the last 31 years...

(btw, what box do you tick these days? I'm never sure - Ms.? Miss? Mrs.?)

(btw, what box do you tick these days? I'm never sure - Ms.? Miss? Mrs.?)

You would be a Ms!

Normally I'd just put Ms. but it wasn't an option on the surgery registration form. Just Miss or Mrs.

It probably is a small town vs large city issue (or insert Norfolk joke *here*)--but it is still surprising to me. I've been married for almost 9 years and the issue has just never come up at all. People here just look baffled when I explain the situation.  I even got a "Well in this country, normally we..." lecture from the person at the surgery's reception.  

This whole day has just been one, long, very inconvenient annoyance. 

Normally I'd just put Ms. but it wasn't an option on the surgery registration form. Just Miss or Mrs.

It probably is a small town vs large city issue (or insert Norfolk joke *here*)--but it is still surprising to me. I've been married for almost 9 years and the issue has just never come up at all. People here just look baffled when I explain the situation.  I even got a "Well in this country, normally we..." lecture from the person at the surgery's reception. 

Honestly, I found it to be a US/UK thing though I don't live in small-town USA. It was so incredibly annoying and surgeries were the worst for it. Sometimes I just wanted to yell 'get over it! this is my name, let's move along!'.

What doesn't make sense to me is that plenty of people divorce and remarry in the UK... so their names would change, too. Surely if they can cope with that, they can cope with a woman who chosese to keep her maiden name?

I also found surgeries to be the worst with the 'what's your Christian name'... but that's another thread entirely!

Honestly, I found it to be a US/UK thing though I don't live in small-town USA. It was so incredibly annoying and surgeries were the worst for it. Sometimes I just wanted to yell 'get over it! this is my name, let's move along!'.

What doesn't make sense to me is that plenty of people divorce and remarry in the UK... so their names would change, too. Surely if they can cope with that, they can cope with a woman who chosese to keep her maiden name?

I also found surgeries to be the worst with the 'what's your Christian name'... but that's another thread entirely!

Don't get me started on both the "Ms." thing and the "Christian name" thing!  Pet peeves galore of mine.

I have chosen to go by my husband's surname, but I could have just as easily chose not to.  And sometimes I prefer to use Ms. instead of Mrs. Andee Married name just because I hate the whole inequality thing of a woman having to reveal her marital status in her title, but a man *never* has to.  It is very very old-fashioned to me.  

And obviously, I (and many others) have never had a Christian name since I was never a Christian.  I've got a cool Hebrew name, though!  

I'm over co-workers who whinge and myther over everything. And ask people to do things starting with the phrase, "I don't know if you want to....."(with a snippy tone) and/or "Do you want to...."(with same snippy tone) or "What's [insert child's name here] doing over there?" 
Why must people like this work with me?! 

Still a million things to do, and so sooooo tired...think I'm going to crawl into my bed anyway & start afresh bright and early tomorrow. 

Dylan just left via the cat flap.  What's up with that?!  He was supposed to snuggle me tonight! 

Still a million things to do, and so sooooo tired...think I'm going to crawl into my bed anyway & start afresh bright and early tomorrow. 

I've got to go to bed, too as I've an early start for a Saturday (6 am).  Off to bed now, Dylan-less.

Too much "togetherness" with my family for thanksgiving. They were all on my last nerve. I'm so happy to be back home in my nice quiet, peaceful apt again!!!

All four of us are sick with colds

The Husband and I have very different ideas of spending the day together getting some Christmas shopping done and perhaps lunch out since we're sans Thing 1 and Thing 2 for the day. His expectation was that we'd do it all at the big Tesco Extra and is annoyed that I'm annoyed by this idea.  No thanks. I'll go out on my own another day ...

The Husband and I have very different ideas of spending the day together getting some Christmas shopping done and perhaps lunch out since we're sans Thing 1 and Thing 2 for the day. His expectation was that we'd do it all at the big Tesco Extra and is annoyed that I'm annoyed by this idea.  No thanks. I'll go out on my own another day ...

That sucks big time well when you go out shopping on your own hope you have a good time an find some good deals as well!!   

Flaky people.