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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #30 on: February 08, 2006, 05:48:24 PM »
Wow. *Gulp* That's awful. Sorry to hear that!

Honestly... sometimes it's for the best. LDR's are ridiculously complicated. If anything happened to Tom and I, I'd never ever do it again. You have to be 100% devoted to one another. If one party is less devoted than the other about making it work, it's a disaster waiting to happen.  :-[
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #31 on: February 08, 2006, 07:21:27 PM »
Jane,

So sorry to hear that.. :(

Sending you lots of hugs and best wishes!


Angela xx
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #32 on: February 12, 2006, 01:28:56 AM »
Thanks for all your kind wishes.

Hope you all make your dreams

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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #33 on: February 12, 2006, 02:46:43 AM »
Quote from: Dave~Jane on February 05, 2006, 01:49:52 AM
Sorry guys, but you wont be seeing me in this forum anymore.
As of 1.30 am on the 5th february, i am a single woman again.
Dave has decided that I am not worth starting over again in a different country for.
He has sh*tcanned me.

I hope everybody here gets what they desire and I wish you all the very best of luck from the bottom of my heart.

Goodbye and Good Luck to you all

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I am so sorry to hear that. I had something very similar happen to me.  :\\\'( Feel free to PM me if you need some one to talk to.
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #34 on: February 12, 2006, 02:48:01 PM »
I am so sorry to hear that :(

*hugs* best of luck to you.

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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #35 on: February 12, 2006, 04:22:33 PM »
*hugs to you*  I too am sorry to hear about what happened to you.

Something similar also happened to me not even a month ago.  You are definitely not alone in your pain.  Also feel free to PM me if you'd like.
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #36 on: February 17, 2006, 12:13:55 PM »
Jane, don't know if you still read this but wanted to add *hugs*~ my bf and I broke up just last week completely out of the blue so I know how you feel :(
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #37 on: February 17, 2006, 01:19:41 PM »
Aww, amarylis I'm sorry to hear that.  :(
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #38 on: February 17, 2006, 01:24:38 PM »
Just happened to see this... what a sad ending.  :-\\\\

But I suppose it's some comfort to know that it's nothing personal - it's a hard, hard thing to do to maintain across-continent LDR. I went through one before I met dh too - he couldn't handle it and coped by having an old girlfriend here who he was still seeing. It's SO hard....
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #39 on: February 18, 2006, 12:00:57 AM »
Quote from: amarylis on February 17, 2006, 12:13:55 PM
Jane, don't know if you still read this but wanted to add *hugs*~ my bf and I broke up just last week completely out of the blue so I know how you feel :(

Completely out of the blue...wow...do I ever understand that.  Been over a month for me and it still cuts me deep when I think about it.  I wish you luck and the shoulders of many close friends.
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #40 on: February 18, 2006, 01:13:27 PM »
Thanks for all the good wishes guys.

This was completely out of the blue because i was planning our wedding. We were together for almost 2 yrs.

Please anyone that wants to talk or needs someone to just listen then feel free to add my AIM, yahoo or msn to your lists and feel free to buzz me anytime you see me online.

Its always good to have someone to talk to that knows what you are talking about.

I am still very cut up and still cry myself to sleep at nights.

Maybe talk soon xxxxxxxxxxx
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #41 on: February 18, 2006, 01:22:11 PM »
*Big hugs* for Amarylis and Jane.  Hope you'll stick around so we can cheer you up a bit.  [smiley=daisy.gif]
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #42 on: February 19, 2006, 02:07:26 PM »
Well,  I called him and poured my heart out to him begging for him to come home.

He told me in his mind he has already moved on and i should do the same.

Guess thats as good as its gonna get,  Time for me to move on, even though i dont want to and its the hardest thing i have ever had to do.

Take care all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #43 on: February 19, 2006, 02:24:48 PM »
Hi Jane

If he's that definite, then yes you should start trying to move on.  You know what I always find helps after a break up? It's a cliche but get a new haircut. Really, it makes you feel good about yourself. Spoil yourself a little - buy a new jumper, a new lipstick, girly things like that.  Watch silly movies with your girlfriends.  Have a girls night out.  You know what else helps? Pack away or throw away all those momentoes, the little gifts, the photos, all the rest of it. Delete his emails.  Forget his phone number.  You don't need all those reminders around you just now. 

It's not easy, take it in baby steps and soon you'll start to feel better.

Take care.
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Re: Coping with the LDR
« Reply #44 on: February 19, 2006, 02:58:23 PM »
Quote from: Britwife on February 19, 2006, 02:24:48 PM
Have a girls night out.  You know what else helps? Pack away or throw away all those momentoes, the little gifts, the photos, all the rest of it. Delete his emails.  Forget his phone number.  You don't need all those reminders around you just now. 

It's not easy, take it in baby steps and soon you'll start to feel better.

Take care.

And take his picture  off your avatar on this site.

Once, when i'd had my heart severely stomped on, i found i was having problems getting over it... then another friend commented on this sort of 'shrine' i had... a sort of collage on the wall of various photos of him and us.
As soon as i took those photos down, i really did start feeling better and started getting a life.
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