hello all. this will be my intro thread and question thread, to avoid posting two separate threads.

i am a U.S. citizen and my boyfriend, who is in U.S. Air Force, is currently stationed in the UK. he asked me to come visit and stay with him for 6 months to a year. i realize i need to have a visa in order to stay that long. however, i would like to perhaps have a part time job while staying there so that he won't have to be solely responsible for supporting me, though he said he has no problem doing so.
do i apply for a visitor visa first?
if he will be supporting me/my trip for the most part will his bank statements be sufficient as evidence that i will not need UK assistance?
i am currently employed but was planning on quitting my current job and applying to graduate school while in the UK and attend school upon return to the states. do you think that will have an adverse effect on my visa application?
i'm very worried about the application process, which i've already begun by completing an online application and submitting an online application fee.
i apologize if this is a repost, i searched for information about visiting U.S. military in the UK but found nothing. i know i definitely would not permanently remain in the UK because my boyfriend will return to the states in two years. my sole reason for going is to live with him and maybe even get engaged, in which case we'd return to the U.S. and get married!

any advice would be grateful.