Is it just me...?

Several of my friends have recently announced they are pregnant.  And, once congratulations have been offered, it seems that about 90% of the people they told immediately ask "was it planned?".  Is it just me, or is this an incredibly intrusive question to ask?  Don't get me wrong - I'm not a prude - but it just seems to me that it's no one's business but the two people involved whether or not a pregnancy was the result of ovulation tracking or a drunken night on the town.

This is something that has grated on me since the first person asked me if my son was planned, and it seems to annoy me the more I hear it about other people.

Am I completely off my rocker?  Am I the only one who thinks this is just not an appropriate question to ask?

the only woman I would dare to ask this question to would be my sisters.  and only because we have incredibly close relationships.  i don't think i would even ask my best friend this question- such a personal question!

when i get asked questions like this I usually come up with a stock semi standoffish/point blank/put em in their place answer.

Yikes! I don't even have children and I know enough not to ask that question!!

Thank <insert deity here> it's not just me!!  I am completely gobsmacked that anyone would ask such a question, but I hear it all the time.  I feel so much better now.

Why don't they ask the size of your banking account and your underwear color while they are at it.  I was asked that with my pregnancy, I always ask why did they want to know, usually shuts them right up.

It is not a question I ask anyone, perhaps I would ask my sister.  I have had several people ask me with all three of my pregnancies.  I do view it as impolite, unless it was my mom, sister or best friend who asked.

I got asked that all the time about Roisin.  Now I get a lot of 'Are you going to try for a boy?'  I tell them I'm sterilised to shut them up.  Or that I carry a genetic disease and had to have gender selection to avoid passing it on.

Wow, yeah, I tend not to ask that question, it just seems odd.  I did ask my SIL, but the situation was different and well, I really wanted to know.  She didn't seem to mind, but I wouldn't ask anyone else this except maybe my own sister.

I got asked this LOADS and it royally pissed me off. Even by managers at work!! 

I got asked this LOADS and it royally pissed me off. Even by managers at work!! 

I do not see where it is anyone business.  I just do not understand peoples reasoning for asking.

That's really rude.  I've been asked it loads of times-especially about our little one who is seven years younger than her sister.  And also the 'were you trying for a boy?'  

But I also think it's really rude to ask people who don't have children if they're going to.  That's strikes me as so ultra personal.  

But I also think it's really rude to ask people who don't have children if they're going to.  That's strikes me as so ultra personal. 

agreed.  I get asked often, and by some people who dont know either of us!  Where does it say that since you're married you have to have babies??!

It's completey inappropriate to ask such a question but here's one that's worse. When we found out we were preg with Jack, I told my next door neighbor Dawn. Well a few days later her husband saw Frank outside and went up to him and said "congratulations, is this what you wanted?" Now WHAT kind of question is that???  

No one has ever asked me, that I can remember.  But then We have been trying forever, and I told people this so if they asked it would be kind of silly!

I hate when people ask Why don't you have a baby yet!!!  There are plenty of people out there who have a lot of trouble conceiving and it can be very painful! Goes along with why are you not married yet.  My sister gets this all the time, it's especially crap because she is not dating at the moment.  She usually laughs but I know it pisses her off, I know it pissed me off to no end!

I hate when people ask Why don't you have a baby yet!!!  There are plenty of people out there who have a lot of trouble conceiving and it can be very painful! Goes along with why are you not married yet.  My sister gets this all the time, it's especially crap because she is not dating at the moment.  She usually laughs but I know it pisses her off, I know it pissed me off to no end!

Ugh. I had that for years. I didn't actually want to get married and I was very happy on the dating scene -- but people always assume that what works for them is what the rest of the world ought to want as well.

Another question you should never ask: "When are you due?" Not unless you're absolutely certain the woman is pregnant!