Breast is Best

True as people have children then advice and information is spewed on but really at the heart of it..it's yours and your partner's decision (unless it's something that can harm the child) this also goes for when two people get engaged you'll get a pleathera of advice and meddling over how to conduct your wedding and when you want to buy a house or start a business...you just take what you find useful and ignore the rest :-\\\\oh well

Different strokes , Different folks

Why does that lady from the Tittytittybangbang series come to mind....

"I'd like to have a fight."   

"and when you go back to your ponsy mum friends tell them I knocked 7 shades of shite out of you..."

True as people have children then advice and information is spewed on but really at the heart of it..it's yours and your partner's decision (unless it's something that can harm the child) this also goes for when two people get engaged you'll get a pleathera of advice and meddling over how to conduct your wedding and when you want to buy a house or start a business...you just take what you find useful and ignore the rest :-\\\\oh well

Different strokes , Different folks

So true...I think I am just one of those live and let live people. You know what they say about opinions and an unamed body part...everyone has one!   

Wow...went to my doctor's appointment and the thread grew several pages! I just wanted to make a comment about mothers "competing"...I know the reasons behind it, but it seems silly doesn't it? I've even listened to conversations about birth stories (old men have war stories, women birth stories) where it is turned into a competition in some way...like who had the fastest birth, the most unusual, the most "virtuous"(no drugs or bright lights etc) or on the other side the worst experience, the longest labor, the bloodiest etc....

*shaking head, rolling eyes*

And, I agree with your post about being there for your kids Mrs. Pink.

happens with everything really you can talk to older nurses and it's the "you think it's tough now..." or when I hear older patients going into the "kids these days have it easy" stories. It reminds me of the 4 yorkshire men skit

I tried to breast feed with my 3..It just wouldn't happen.....I think ppl that have C-sections do not get the proper hormone released as do women who give birth and it is sooo much harder for them.

No, I had c-sections with both girls and didn't really have supply problems with either of them.  I stopped bfing Dagmar because I had some PPD and just didn't really want to do it.  Now I wish I had.  But Morgan was easy, took to it from the first, and when she was three days old (or so) my milk came in with a vengeance!

But I do think this thread is amazing-if you want to see women getting snotty and competitive, check out some of the Babycenter forums on breast vs. bottle.  People there are vicious.

But I do think this thread is amazing-if you want to see women getting snotty and competitive, check out some of the Babycenter forums on breast vs. bottle.  People there are vicious.

no doubt.  that's why i don't go there anymore.  any baby who isn't exclusively breastfed for 2 years is doomed to a life of low intelligence and ill health - that was the impression i got, anyhow. 

As a pre-school teacher, I have seen some amazing backstabbing between mothers and their choices.

It's interesting that you brought this up.  There was an article in Child magazine a few months ago about this exact topic.... which I can't seem to find online.  Phooey.  So much for that.

Anyway....   I do believe that mothers are overly critical of other mothers.  I know I have had my "WTF was she thinking?" moments, and I'm not too proud to admit it.  However, I think that it is seriously low-rent for women to voice those opinions out loud.  We're all struggling to figure out this whole parenting thing, and it's completely counter-productive to get into arguments with another mom about their choices.  Just the other day I was given "the look" from another woman as I was trying to discipline my son for flinging utensils off the table at a restaurant.  Was I yelling at him or telling him he was bad?  No.  I simply held his hands in mine as I explained that what he was doing was not appropriate.  Apparently in that woman's mind I was being a horrible mother.

 I do believe that mothers are overly critical of other mothers.  I know I have had my "WTF was she thinking?" moments, and I'm not too proud to admit it.  However, I think that it is seriously low-rent for women to voice those opinions out loud. 

I admit I do think WTF is she doing when I see other mothers do something. For instance I was on the bus awhile ago and her baby was around 2. And she kept yelling at him saying "wtf,you want my drink?? fine I'll give you my fuc**ing drink,go on fuc**ing drink it then you bit*h".... I was gobsmacked. I wanted to say something so bad,but it wasn't my place..I was so happy to finally get off that bus!!

by the way fungirl, you handled that wonderfully! Thats exacatly what I would've done! Good job!

by the way fungirl, you handled that wonderfully! Thats exacatly what I would've done! Good job!

 

I admit I do think WTF is she doing when I see other mothers do something. For instance I was on the bus awhile ago and her baby was around 2. And she kept yelling at him saying "wtf,you want my drink?? fine I'll give you my fuc**ing drink,go on fuc**ing drink it then you bit*h".... I was gobsmacked. I wanted to say something so bad,but it wasn't my place..I was so happy to finally get off that bus!!

Yikes, EY!  See, I'd see that more as witnessing verbal abuse rather than making a judgement on another mother.  I feel so sorry for kids being berated like that.  I mean, it's not like they can just leave and find a new place to live.  Poor souls.  I saw almost the exact thing you do, but involving a mom who's daughter was obviously tired out.  But I did say something as I walked off the bus.  What a beeotch.  The kid's legs are only a foot long, wtf was she thinking, she was gonna be able to shop all day?  

See those times are the only ones where I might give a mother a look... or think it to myself...  I had a similar experience  in a Moto where some man with his family smacked his quiet son that requested sitting up front... upside the head and said get in the car you f-ing c-nt.  Or the kids that beat up their parents.  Sorry, but if your child is hitting you repeatedly... there is a problem.  Same goes for the 12 year old and 16 year old sisters that screamed and  grabbed onto MY arm and MY body during take off and landing...while their parents drank and basically ignored them....(though at least I did get a thank you for helping to talk them down ) or the 4 year old girl that slapped her mother and repeatedly hit her when told to get in her jammies until mom gave in and breast fed her...actually she screamed and threw tantrums the entire flight... okay 7 or the 8 hours.... see an infant I can see... I toddler I can understand too... but a 4 year old... and the things the mother and father were saying to her... I wanted to ask her exactly who was the parent and who was the child? 

There are some cases where.. really... one does want to issued parenting licenses.

What I find most "amusing" is when people who don't even have kids comment about how to be a mother to someone.  For instance a family member of Dales was critising me for saying "buhbye! buhbye" to Courtney while waving at her when I had to leave to go somewhere. She said how silly it was since Courtney couldn't understand what it meant... whatever

What I find most "amusing" is when people who don't even have kids comment about how to be a mother to someone.  For instance a family member of Dales was critising me for saying "buhbye! buhbye" to Courtney while waving at her when I had to leave to go somewhere. She said how silly it was since Courtney couldn't understand what it meant... whatever

Yeah, I can relate.