Hello everyone,
Been a bit since I have posted...I am finally ready to post whats going on. I know some of you might want to say I told you so, but trust me I have learned the hard way..now I need advice and support.
First thank you to Garry, you have been immensely helpful, and I will probably be bugging you again before this is all over

As you all have probably guessed yes the 2-year visa was denied. My bf and I decided to try to get me over w/o entry clearance. Arriving in LGW they pretty much immediately decided they needed to interview me. After several hours it seemed things were going well, the IOs (there were 2 of them) told my bf they were just waiting to confirm the visa denial and saw no reason it was denied, and that things were fine, etc..they also implied things were fine to me, that again they were waiting to get the visa refusal details. Then they came back and said they couldnt tell me what would happen because there was to be a shift change.
I can only assume from the amount of time I was there after the shift change that the new IO threw out everything and started all over with me, asked me maybe 3 questions, got rather rude about the visa refusal and then came back awhile later to tell me I was going to be denied but they were still deciding how long to let me stay if at all.
They let me stay one week, and I found out the second IO didnt talk to my bf at all, she said she would call him if/when she needed anything from him..the first set were really nice, they told him to call back periodically to see what progress was made. An hour after I was released she called my bf to tell me I had been released and asked if I had called him. (by that point I was on the final leg of my journey, and had managed to find someone nice enough to tell me how to reverse charges on a phone call).
And so we got one week together. We talked with Garry and got all our options, rather late in the week I am afraid, we spent the rest of the time looking for solicitors..which was a total waste of time

Garry had the info immediately for me, my brain just froze and I didnt even think to get ahold of him until quite late.
We could have tried for FLR, but not only was it SO expensive and there was really no guarantee it would be granted, I was also very sick the day we were to go, which was a day before I was supposed to leave
So on the 30th we got engaged. Yes I am completely thrilled and so excited, but now nervous about the visa. And I have family problems. And issues with my ex. So while I would love to have about a million !!s with this post, I am just exhausted mentally and physically. We both knew we'd be engaged sometime, we just would have liked a bit more time. However we also know its the right thing to do.
So lets start the barrage of questions with just one...I am not sure how to time the appt in chicago...I have to get a final hearing for my divorce. I should be able to schedule that in about a week and a half. But upon looking at the consulates website, they arent booking appts past the 16th? Is that because they dont go more than 2 weeks in advance or are they not available the rest of the month? the 16th would be cutting it rather close (we would like to have the visa applied for around the 20th or so, and for me to be back on my way on or about the 1st of march).
Ok I guess that is 2 questions, lets call it a two-part question

Take care all,
Katrina