He's gone....

Ok.  He just called me - at work.  And he is completely flipping out.     He has only been there for 3 hours! He said he knows that I'll hate it and he doesn't know why he decided to go back and he knows that we had good reasons, but that they just don't make sense anymore.  I told him that most of the reasons revolve around us as a family, so they will probably be clearer when I get there.  He's already sat his parents down at the kitchen table and told them that he may be using his return ticket (  ) in two weeks!  He's only been there for 3 hours!  He said he took a nap too!  How in God's name can things actually be as bad as he thinks they are?  He's been up since 4am yesterday.  I think he needs a good night's sleep.  And to actually leave his parent's house and walk around and go to a shop and eat a sausage roll.

I'm supposed to call him when I get home - he's going to tell me why things are as bad as he says.   

aw, but it sounds like you are staying strong for the two of you.

good luck!!

Nothing like a DH who over reacts!  Mine is totally like that.  It is either really, really good, or absolutely horrible.  No in between.  I tend not to say anything until he's had a good night sleep (or 3 in the case of jet lag) and then reassess.   Separation is really difficult but it won't last forever! 

It must be so hard for you  . Here is to the quickest summer of your life!

eta: maybe he just misses you a great deal?

I talked to him again after work and he was just fine.     He said he just wanted to call me at work and let me know that he got there safely and everything was fine - but apparently the sweet sound of my voice sent him over the edge.    

He has seen his twin sister and her family already and is going to visit a friend this weekend, then his other sister and her family are coming out.  So hopefully by next week everything will be in perspective. 

He must be missing you heaps Carrie .

I talked to him again after work and he was just fine.     He said he just wanted to call me at work and let me know that he got there safely and everything was fine - but apparently the sweet sound of my voice sent him over the edge.    

He has seen his twin sister and her family already and is going to visit a friend this weekend, then his other sister and her family are coming out.  So hopefully by next week everything will be in perspective. 

He must have been over tired and over emotional.  I get that exact way after international flights...I don't make good, rational decisions until after I've slept some!  I'm glad he's better though!

Poor guy!  Poor you!

One thing my DH and I did during our own "summer of discontent" was that when emailed each other, it was all one long email.  that way, I could scroll down and see how far we'd come every day.  Well, we use gmail so it was a bit neater than that sounds.  And, at the end of the summer, when i was sending off my visa application, I printed of the one (ginormous) e-mail. 

Someone on this board (i can't remember who, sorry!) did something similar with a little blank book that they sent via regular mail back and forth, each writing in it.

Hang in there!

I still have all the letters my DH and I exchanged when we were living on opposite ends of the country for the year before we were married.  And it was before e-mail, so it was snail mail all the way!  And long distance was expensive so we only talked once a week.  It is quite fun to read over all those letters - some of them 18 pages long!  My husband's landlady said she loved seeing the letters in the mail, big thick envelopes from me arriving at the door.  On our 10th anniversary, I bundled them all up, put them in a special box and "gave" them all to my DH, with a new love letter.    No other eyes will (or should not) ever see our letters, but it is such a special thing to have for the two of us.

Still, being separated is horrible. And after that year, we never did it again.  the longest we have ever been separated since, is two weeks, twice.  So chin up Carrie, you'll live through it and when you look back on it, you'll say "Yep, that was horrible, but now we have some nice letters as keepsakes!"  Glad to hear he's doing better though.  It'll be September before you know it!

Someone on this board (i can't remember who, sorry!) did something similar with a little blank book that they sent via regular mail back and forth, each writing in it.

My BF & I do this!  Although, I'm not the person you are talking about.  We have two Journals and we trade when we see each other (he would never mail it!).  I find writing in the journal helps me deal with the separation.  I'm able to express how I'm feeling at different times.

Hang in there! September will be here before you know it!  If it's any consolation - that's my move time too!  We can count down together. 

He must have been over tired and over emotional.  I get that exact way after international flights...I don't make good, rational decisions until after I've slept some!  I'm glad he's better though!

Me too!  On both counts.    I went through the same thing he did when I first came back here.  And like him, I was also okay once again shortly after.

I'm so sorry you have to be separated from your DH for so long.    Here's hoping for a quick summer for everyone who is waiting for it to be fall!  Seems like there's quite a few of us....I'm not moving in September, but shortly after (on Halloween!).  Like others have said, we can all count down together. 

Some told me I should keep a dairy of my thought about how much I missed Ven {hes been gone 3 days now and I still havent cryed ..yet!}and I should hand it to him when he comes bk to the uk as a love book sorta thing, but Im just not romantic or smoochy and neither is he .Same with emails ,,Ven and I use skype or chatrooms .
Im also dreading the letter I have to write about Ven and how we met for the spousal visa, cus I have no idea what on earth to say.

We really aren't that romantic either - most of our conversations and emails are more practical or factual.  I do sort of like the idea of just responding back and forth with the same email.  It would be a sort of countdown ticker.  Although I also imagine it would be really, really, really long as you already have to scroll a couple of times to make it through a single email.  We can't do chatrooms because his parents don't have a computer at their house and the laptop is mine.  The desktop is getting shipped with everything else, but that won't be until September.

He had to sit on the floor in the library to email me today (got stuck with the children's computer).  I spoke to him again today as well - and he seems much better.  He's going to Bristol to visit a friend from uni tomorrow, and his BIL is taking him to "the biggest [rugby] match of the year" this weekend.  He's also applied to loads of jobs, and is hoping to hear something from within a couple weeks (he also sent some applications off before he left the US). 

Yay!  I'm just so happy that he's doing well. 

Some told me I should keep a dairy of my thought about how much I missed Ven {hes been gone 3 days now and I still havent cryed ..yet!}and I should hand it to him when he comes bk to the uk as a love book sorta thing, but Im just not romantic or smoochy and neither is he .Same with emails ,,Ven and I use skype or chatrooms .

I did this when my partner and I were apart for 5 1//2 months at the beginning of our relationship.  Orginially, I wrote it in the diary for him and to him, but in the end it turned out to be more for myself and I didn't end up showing it to him, although I suppose I always could at some point.  But it was helpful to memorialize the time apart and recongize when I was having a good day or a bad day without him.  And now I can look back at it and appreciate being with him now!

Its so good to hear hes doin well , Vens doin great as well , but Im sure hes missing me loads , from what I hear all hes done is eat since he got bk to the states .