is this "normal" for a healthy LDR?

up4tea,

What I'm getting from all your recent posts is that you're feeling insecure about this relationship for one reason or another and that is leading you to over-analyse everything.   Try not to get bogged down in the detail of who said what to whom or who did what or what does it all mean and where is it going.  That is not healthy whether you are in the same country or not.  Also comparing to others' experience isn't always a good thing ... just because such-and-such happened to someone else doesn't mean it will happen to you.   I would take what he says to you at face value unless he's given you reason to doubt him and move on from there.

Good luck.

LOL
I always over-analyze everything! That's part of who I am!

I know not everyone's experience is alike...

anyway I guess I was looking for some positive feedback that I am "normal"...
sounds like you all are sick of hearing about my inner dialogue so...I won't mention it again

thanks for all the input anyway

anyway I guess I was looking for some positive feedback that I am "normal"...
sounds like you all are sick of hearing about my inner dialogue so...I won't mention it again

Where'd that come from?    People have been nothing but supportive and helpful in their replies.  You asked them to share their views, and they all did so in a constructive manner.   

from the previous 2 posts by BritWife and persephone...

I got the distinct impression that they were saying the question had been answered and that I needed to find something else to post about...

you are right...most people have been supportive
I appreciate all the response
and was in no way trying to be facetious

It's just time to turn my attention elsewhere

OMG... I'm soooo sorry you felt that from me!  I totally didn't mean it that way.  I really need to pay more attention to what I am saying.  I really appologize.  I think that it is important for people to talk about issues that are bothering them!  I know I talk people's heads off about things that are bothering me.  I am just worried about giving advice, because I do think each situation is different.  I worry that what I am saying is not applicable, or that I'm talk out my a$$ or something.  I seriously am glad you are posting your concerns here.  I think I mentioned before that following your concerns was one of the reasons I ended up joining this board, because I really felt for you and your situation.  We all have different experiences, and I think it's wonderful we can talk about each of ours.  Please do not stop posting about it because I'm inarticulate.  Honestly, I'm worried about how you are feeling in this situation, and appreciate hearing when you are feeling up, and wish there was more I could do when you are feeling down.  I really am sorry, and if what I say really bothers, please just pm me and I will stop responding to your posts.  I really am sorry for coming off that way.  I hope that you are not offended, and you keep talking about everything.  Sounding boards for what you are going through, are always a good idea, and I hope you see this forum as that! 

(((persephone)))

it's okay...don't feel that way.
I am VERY glad for all your input...and
I'm sure I'll mention it again from time to time, when I feel I am needing extra support

but I am glad to be moving forward to, and not focusing on it as much...

Persephone,  you dont need to apologise!
You have said/done nothing wrong and certainly should not have been singled out (along with Britwife, who gave some excellent and very wise advice which i completely agree with).

up4tea... i know you said that over-analysing things is 'part of who you are', but it really isn't healthy and perhaps is something you'll need to work on for future relationships?     Good luck. 

I always over-analyze everything! That's part of who I am!

lots of people on this site are like this, no worries. sometimes people who offer support and then continue to read/hear obsessive analysis when they can so clearly see the obvious get annoyed. it's human nature. I've done it and so have many of my friends.

what you are going through is a big deal for you. this is a place where you hope people can empathize. but at the end of the day  you have you make the decisions best for you.

good luck.

but I am glad to be moving forward to, and not focusing on it as much...

I had to bump this for your own benefit up4tea. Make peace and move on.

I had to bump this for your own benefit up4tea. Make peace and move on.

to be honest I had moved on so much I forgot I had posted this until you bumped it!

to be honest I had moved on so much I forgot I had posted this until you bumped it!

Good girl.
Hope this is truly the case!