Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?

If you're in a long distance relationship and the only form of communication you have is letters, do you think it's possible, or do you need to physically be with someone to really love them?

I figured you guys would know best of anyone 

I don't know about anyone else, but I certainly fell in love with the idea of my soon to be husband by chatting online, but what really made things fall into place was actually meeting him.

I had a hard time even believing you could fall in love with someone you haven't actually met.  After chatting with my UK guy for about 3 months, he told me he was falling in love with me.  I was able to connect with him emotionally in a way that I had never done with anyone else and and after about six months of chatting with him, I was able to tell him I loved him back.  I would never have done that if I didn't completely feel it. 

I don't know.  I've never done it (but then I haven't done a lot of things).  I guess I could see falling in love with someone via letters, but I don't think you could tell if you were compatable until you spent some time face to face.

Oh my goodness yes,
 Email or paper letters its all the same.  I knew I loved my DF 2 weeks into emailing.  I knew when we met no matter what he looked like in real life (alt hough I had seen him on web cam) I know that it didn't matter, it was him I loved not his exterior (although I love that too).

I think so. I met my bf online too 4 years ago but we didnt start developing feelings for eah other until last year when I broke up with my ex bf and so we started to "see" each other more than jsut friends. We met two months ago and it was wonderful, I didnt care what he looked like, in those 4 years we only sent a couple of pics to each other  and not even updated ones; but I fell in love with that friend, the person in the other side of a computer, I fell in love with the words written in a screen and just like Zeusy99 said... You don't care what he/she really loos like because you are in love with their inside.
When we finally met it was amazing to be able to touch him, hug him, kiss him, just be able to talk face to face. But know that I am back in the US and he has gone to work in France for 5 months in the middle of the nowhere, is hard to communicate because the place he is at, does not have internet; so we write letters to each other and send postcards, we were only able to chat once in the last month when he went to the nearest city, but pretty much everything else is letters. I think letters are more personal and romantic but the wait is longer...I get so emotional when I receive a postcard or letter, I cry even before opening the envelope and sleep with it under my pillow  :$

I think it's definitely possible, as so many people have fallen in love with people via email or letters over the years   However, I don't think it's possible for *me* personally- I'm way too paranoid/scared to trust my feelings until I have the person right there in front of me.

Oh my goodness yes,
 Email or paper letters its all the same.  I knew I loved my DF 2 weeks into emailing.  I knew when we met no matter what he looked like in real life (alt hough I had seen him on web cam) I know that it didn't matter, it was him I loved not his exterior (although I love that too).

Exactly......

I knew I had really strong feelings for my man before we met, but I wouldn't call it love back then. I am pretty guarded about my feelings, but once we were together in person I couldn't deny what I was feeling for long. I think it's pretty impressive the bond that we built through email and chat without ever speaking for the first six months. But I discovered what I truly felt for him by spending "real" time together. Not to say it can't happen that way. I am not one to judge or say what can or cannot happen. Just sharing my experience. 

My husband and I started to fall that way -- we were e-mail penpals (through an online penpal service) before anything else.  Both of us are very much geared toward the written word, and as a result, it was a very good way for us to get to know each other.  Nevertheless, we were both cautious upon meeting face to face -- not to assume too much, or to think that because we hit it off in writing, being together in person would naturally follow.  It took awhile for the "physically in person" part of knowing each other to catch up with the knowing each other through the written word part, but we managed.

If you're in a long distance relationship and the only form of communication you have is letters, do you think it's possible, or do you need to physically be with someone to really love them?

I figured you guys would know best of anyone 

If there's a way, love will flow. =)




So... yes! Actually communication of any form is precisely how people fall in love, period, regardless of method. It just so happens that letters are inherent more lasting, patient, and 'romantic' ;P

I think it's pretty impressive the bond that we built through email and chat without ever speaking for the first six months.

Our experience was similar.  We emailed and IMed for over a year and half until we actually spoke on the phone (seems insane now!) and I can certainly say that I loved DH by then! 

well i met my husband one night when i'd had way to much to drink in New Orleans.  He left my room the next day, was a cutie, but thought i'd never see him again.

It was over the months (and years) that followed that i fell in love with him. The long letters he used to write. The phone calls.  We did see each other, and i do think that it is important, but really, i fell in love with what he said and how he acted......being with him was great but if i'd only heard that voice and read those notes-i'd still just love him.

Absolutely. My husband and I IM'd, sent letters, emails, spoke on the phone and such for two years before we met in person. To be honest, both of us fell head-over-heels a couple months after we started talking! lol Normally, I would never have considered a long-distance relationship of that sort, having a devoted relationship with an ocean between us for two+ years. Nonetheless, he and I began talking, something major clicked between us, and three years and 6 months later, we're happily married, approaching our one year anniversary. So yes indeed, you can certainly fall in love with someone through letters. 

Oh definitely.  I have a really good friend (now) who I had the biggest crush on for YEARS before we ever met.  I still consider him a dear friend, but I've grown out of the 'love' now that I have a boyfriend whom I met via traditional methods.  But I think I will always harbor a form of deep affection for him...

I think it's easier, in fact, to do this, because via letters, IM, e-mails you tend to only see the good, whereas in person you get the good along with them bad.