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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #30 on: June 04, 2006, 10:55:31 PM »
No, no I don't believe so.  I truly don't.  Sorry if that offends some, but it's my opinion that you need to physically meet someone and spend time in their company to have a relationship which involves actual love.

yes, very much agreed! Falling "in like" with someone is very easy. Loving someone inside and out involves much more than letters, emails, IMs and phone calls. Afterall, if the guy I love squeezes his toothpaste from the middle, I'm going to have to love him enough to buy him is own tube!  ;) There is a lot to be said about love and partnership and both people have to be on the same level to truly be "partners."


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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #31 on: June 20, 2006, 03:05:18 PM »
Yes you can and I have a trunk full of letters to go along with this. After almost 11 years married and 2 kids I couldn't be happier. All due to a few pieces of paper and a stamp. Love crosses all borders and there is no "right" way to fall in love. It happens to us all in different ways. Life would be dull if we all went to a bar, saw someone across the room, walked over, fell in love and got married.


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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #32 on: June 22, 2006, 03:20:22 AM »
Well, I'll say I believe it as it happened to me.  My now husband and I met online and were writing e-mails for about a month when I got a business trip to London that was then cancelled, but I decided to go anyway.  He was thrilled to be meeting up with me, but we never talked on the phone before we met - only e-mails.

The e-mails were written in such a way that I felt that unless this person were not really who he said he was, this was the person for me.  I began to fall in love as we came closer and closer to the time we met.

We met and that very afternoon he told me he loved me and I said it back.  We both felt that we didn't want to write it in an e-mail as we wanted to be sure in person, but we both knew that we felt this way.

Well, we were engaged the next day (June 16th of last year - on my birthday!), married in November and our first child is due in August!

So, I believe in it!

(By the way, my friend said to me, "What if you meet him and he sounds like Mike Tyson?"  Luckily he didn't.....  ;D )

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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #33 on: June 22, 2006, 03:50:51 AM »
If you're in a long distance relationship and the only form of communication you have is letters, do you think it's possible, or do you need to physically be with someone to really love them?

I figured you guys would know best of anyone  8)

A resounding YES, you really need to physically meet someone in order to see if there's chemistry. Words alone are great at getting to know a person, but the rest you can only fill in with your imagination so he may seem more perfect than he really is. Plus, you're only really seeing the side of him he wants you to see when you communicate in writing... he could have an ugly temper in real life or have room-clearing BO. You just don't know. I wouldn't call it love yet, but it's definitely very romantic! I wish you the best.
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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #34 on: June 22, 2006, 08:22:05 AM »
A resounding YES, you really need to physically meet someone in order to see if there's chemistry. Words alone are great at getting to know a person, but the rest you can only fill in with your imagination so he may seem more perfect than he really is. Plus, you're only really seeing the side of him he wants you to see when you communicate in writing... he could have an ugly temper in real life or have room-clearing BO. You just don't know. I wouldn't call it love yet, but it's definitely very romantic! I wish you the best.

I agree...  :)


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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #35 on: June 22, 2006, 01:12:28 PM »
Well, here's my take on it: My husband and I met online and exchanged emails, did loads of chatting via IM, spoke on the phone constantly, wrote letters, sent "care" packages.........and we knew there was major chemistry from the get. We just did. When we finally met in person nearly two years after we'd met online, it was only more so. We had  not even an hour of awkwardness, before we felt as though we had never been apart. We were together in person for one week. That's all, one week. He had asked me to marry him multiple times over the phone, and each time I said yes; we just knew, somehow, that we had found each other. He asked me to marry him in person, of course, during our week together. It was the most amazing week I had ever experienced, and when he left to go home, both of us were crushed. We realized that our being together was a necessity. Life paled when we were apart to when we were together. He came back the following August, and it was not even one week until we were married. It's always been as though we have known each other always; there has never been a time where we felt like strangers to each other. That I can't explain, but it is true, and was always very, very real. The very first night we spoke, we felt it. I woke the next morning and couldn't get him off my mind. The chemistry was there from that very first night we spoke. It was something intangible but entirely real. I suppose you could say that it was simply meant to be. It was every bit a heartfelt connection from the beginning, even though we met online. Meeting online had no difference in our connection. When our wedding day came, there was nothing wrong about it; we knew that it was the absolute most wonderful thing that we could do, and I tell ya, I cried so much during our vows, so may tears of joy. Even though we met in an unconventional way, a way that some people won't understand and some people won't accept as being comparable to a meeting in person, we are as close as two people could be, closer ever day, and only getting closer. I would never have left my family to be with someone I wasn't absolutely sure was "that other half of me". So I have to say, wholeheartedly, YES you can fall in love through letters. People have done it for hundreds of years, and this beautiful love that my husband and I share sprang partially from learning about each other, experiencing each other, growing together, in letters, among other things.  ;D


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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #36 on: June 23, 2006, 01:08:35 AM »
Well, with a tear in my eye  :-[ I wanted to add that falling in love is the most inexplicable of things.  My boyfriend/fiance and I met online in May, he came over on for two weeks and left only three days ago.  We fell in love through numerous, and I mean, numerous, lengthy (4-8 hour daily) phone calls that were solidified when we physically met.  I have never been so anxious as when waiting for him to materialize before my eyes at the airport.  I was a nervous wreck and it took me awhile to calm down.  We spent a wonderful time together and it felt like we'd known each other forever.

Now, I've been a nutty, PMS wreck without him.  I have literally been freaking out and these forums are such a God send.  Fortunately, he's been patient with me but I've been weepy, crying all day...still am. 

Thanks to all for sharing.


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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #37 on: June 23, 2006, 01:24:18 PM »
Scalawaggirl: *hugs* You're totally not alone in those feelings. lol When I was at the airpot waiting for Steven (my husband) to arrive for our very first meeting, I was so anxious for him to finally be there in front of me, in person.....my mother was my ride to the airport and my brother insisted on coming (the protective older brother sort, you know.lol), and my mom was all smiles as she watched me getting all wound up. lol  His plane arrived, and it seemed like forever (only a few minutes, really) until he was finally walking toward me, and I gave my mom my purse and all and just ran to him (this was when I could still walk :P) and gave him a huge squeeze. We held each other, smiling broadly, and must've seemed a couple of nuts...lol.....but I swear, it was the most wonderful moment of peace and happiness, having him there. When he left after that wonderful week, I absolutely fell apart. I pride myself on being able to hold myself together through most things, but watching him leave was the most horrible feeling ever. He kept looking back to see me as he walked through the lines to head off to his plane, and I just sobbed. Even my mom, who'd given us a ride to the airport, cried. He was brave and held himself together, but I just fell apart. Afterward, I just felt so depressed, knowing what life had been like with him there and not having him there.....and he was so loving and patient, through many more emotional letters, im's, and teary phone calls. There were so many times when he would call or I would call and we'd both end up in tears, just missing each other that badly. Well, 9 months eventually passed, and he returned, and we were married. Iwish you the very, very best of luck in making it through the difficult time when you're separated, and the best of happiness when you're together!  :)


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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #38 on: August 09, 2006, 05:44:26 PM »
I feel Love shouldn't have to be matched w/ meeting face to face.
AJ and I weren't even together for a while, but i couldn't tear myself away from this computer (or my yahoo on my mobile) so i could talk to him everyday. 
I went on vacation (Before my mobile had yahoo) and i felt like a piece of me disapeared each day, because i couldn't talk to him. Instead, I wrote letters in a note book. Typed em when i got home sent them to him.  He loved it! hearing of all my misshaps in the lake and stuff. *mostly falling in due to fishing haha* Anywho.. love knows no age, gender, or distance as i see it.  I've been talking to AJ since oh gosh, a few months before i actually joined up on here. Thats a pretty long time for me, i'm only 22(almost anyway)  I've had my fair share of jerks, AJ is nothing like any other guy i've ever *met* in my entire 21 3/4's of a lifetime.  Good luck sweet heart! 
I'm wishing everyone who isn't settled yet, good luck aswell!

I hope things are going good.

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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #39 on: August 09, 2006, 05:47:56 PM »
I just want to add.  Some Times, falling in lover through letters, paper or e-mail... is the best way.  You get to know them, before anything comes out of it. Not really rushed into things as fast as you would be with a guy from ur home town who asks u out.  I prefer paper-e-mail-and im more than face to face at this moment in time.

If it wasn't for yahoo, i would have never met AJ.. and he's the best thing that happend to me EVER.

GL to u honey!

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Re: Is it possible to fall in love with someone through letters?
« Reply #40 on: August 09, 2006, 07:04:57 PM »
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