Heartache

sorry to hear that reeeka, that is a long time. I wish I could offer some tips to help.
Hope it passes quick for you guys.


Hey I thought I was the only 'weido' who thought about clothing and smells. How cool is that? I also thought it was romantic but always thought others would think I was on the edge.

we did the same as munchie.  dave bought me a harrods teddybear one valentine's day (nice airport purchase i'm sure LOL) and then gave me half a bottle of his after shave.  i put it on that bear about once a week to get a fresh whif of him!

It helped!!!!

I dunno if this helps at all, but my best friend works at Target, and she has for a while now, but I can remember when she first started, and she never felt guilty about taking time off when she needed/wanted it.  I know part of it is about money, but if you find the money, or he can come here like over Christmas or another holiday to extend time off or something, don't feel bad about asking for time off at all.  It happens all the time.  Tbh, my best friend only worked there on Fridays and Saturdays all through college, and they were cool with that.  And believe me, she took a number of those off as well.  She's just started doing full-time and has no qualms about telling them that she's coming here for my wedding.  I really hope that makes you feel better about asking for time off.  Does he wear cologne or have a particular smell that you associate with him that he can spray on a shirt he sends you?

i really really think you should try and find a way to get some time off.  as persophone said, you shouldn't feel bad about asking for time off....i know working retail is tough and they'd make you feel bad, but an employer who can't be compassionate isn't worth working for.  it's not like you'd expect to be paid!

Anyway you never know unless you ask.  Where do you live?  I mean, dave and i used to do 4 day and 5 day visits.  Sure it sucked but it made our relationship work.  I'd usually take a night flight on a Thursday or Friday and be back into work on the tuesday.  It was a commuting lifestyle-and expensive so i'm not suggesting doing it like we did-but even if you did a short 5-7 day long trip instead of 3 weeks.  People's shifts can be filled for a week.

Sorry you're feeling down Reeeeka but looks like some of the advice here has helped. Hope you are feeling a bit better now 

oh reeeeka - I'm sorry for your heartache!  You are very lucky that you do have the cam and get to see one another - that's a good "glass half full" way to look at the distance.  I think I've said this to you before, I'm sure your work will give you time off.  You just have to ask.  We do as Ailmiloo suggested because it's easier to take a Friday & Monday off.  It's a short visit, but better than no visit at all!

I did have a shirt that smelt like Robert...it's all worn off now.    The first time he came to visit me I cleaned two drawers out of one of my dressers for him.  These will always be his drawers and they sit empty when he isn't here.  I put little things in there for him so when he returns he has nice little surprises.  It does make me sad to know they are empty, but I could never put my stuff in them.  Those are his.

Hope you are feeling better today.

sorry to hear that reeeka, that is a long time. I wish I could offer some tips to help.
Hope it passes quick for you guys.


Hey I thought I was the only 'weido' who thought about clothing and smells. How cool is that? I also thought it was romantic but always thought others would think I was on the edge.

Thanks, lol no you arn't the only "weirdo"...it's very romantic.

we did the same as munchie.  dave bought me a harrods teddybear one valentine's day (nice airport purchase i'm sure LOL) and then gave me half a bottle of his after shave.  i put it on that bear about once a week to get a fresh whif of him!

It helped!!!!

0o0o very good idea. I have a bear also from our first year. I bought two bears for christmas and sent him one and kept the identical. I should do that!!!

I dunno if this helps at all, but my best friend works at Target, and she has for a while now, but I can remember when she first started, and she never felt guilty about taking time off when she needed/wanted it.  I know part of it is about money, but if you find the money, or he can come here like over Christmas or another holiday to extend time off or something, don't feel bad about asking for time off at all.  It happens all the time.  Tbh, my best friend only worked there on Fridays and Saturdays all through college, and they were cool with that.  And believe me, she took a number of those off as well.  She's just started doing full-time and has no qualms about telling them that she's coming here for my wedding.  I really hope that makes you feel better about asking for time off.  Does he wear cologne or have a particular smell that you associate with him that he can spray on a shirt he sends you?

My sister works at target. In all honesty I doubt they'd have an issue it's just I feel guilty asking them for it again. I'd want it to be the same (if not more) length of time than last time. I'd rather not risk my job this year if I HAVE to risk it i'd rather it be next year after he comes. I haven't even worked there a year so...i dunno maybe that's why i feel guilty.

Yeah he wears a body spray and it smells sooooo good...i'm going to have him send me a bottle.

i really really think you should try and find a way to get some time off.  as persophone said, you shouldn't feel bad about asking for time off....i know working retail is tough and they'd make you feel bad, but an employer who can't be compassionate isn't worth working for.  it's not like you'd expect to be paid!

Anyway you never know unless you ask.  Where do you live?  I mean, dave and i used to do 4 day and 5 day visits.  Sure it sucked but it made our relationship work.  I'd usually take a night flight on a Thursday or Friday and be back into work on the tuesday.  It was a commuting lifestyle-and expensive so i'm not suggesting doing it like we did-but even if you did a short 5-7 day long trip instead of 3 weeks.  People's shifts can be filled for a week.

o0o0o no way! I'd never expect to be paid for work i didn't do. I was even talking to a friend about this at work...with paid vacation i'd feel weird lol as I wasn't doing work for the money.

I live in La Mesa...it's south california. It's a VERY long journey and usually it takes me a week to get over jet lag so a 4-5 day visit would be me being sick lol. I'd love to live in NY or some other place so that the flying time was shorter, that would be ideal. Where do you live???

Sorry you're feeling down Reeeeka but looks like some of the advice here has helped. Hope you are feeling a bit better now 

Thank you 

oh reeeeka - I'm sorry for your heartache!  You are very lucky that you do have the cam and get to see one another - that's a good "glass half full" way to look at the distance.  I think I've said this to you before, I'm sure your work will give you time off.  You just have to ask.  We do as Ailmiloo suggested because it's easier to take a Friday & Monday off.  It's a short visit, but better than no visit at all!

I did have a shirt that smelt like Robert...it's all worn off now.    The first time he came to visit me I cleaned two drawers out of one of my dressers for him.  These will always be his drawers and they sit empty when he isn't here.  I put little things in there for him so when he returns he has nice little surprises.  It does make me sad to know they are empty, but I could never put my stuff in them.  Those are his.

Hope you are feeling better today.

Thank you.

Yeah I had a shirt also but it's from a LONG time ago and doesn't smell of him anymore lol. I have drawers at his place...it's nice to not live out of a suitcase lol.

Sorry for the slow response...i've been without net for 3 days.

I'm always amazed at how you respond to each person, and with plenty of thought too, it's very nice!  Guess I'm just lazy!     (end hijack)

I'm always amazed at how you respond to each person, and with plenty of thought too, it's very nice!  Guess I'm just lazy!     (end hijack)

lol well i figure everyone takes the time to respond to me so why shouldn't I to them. If they were speaking to me in person I'd speak back to them lol.  Sometimes I feel bad because I don't know what to say because most of the time I've already said it in another comment

yeah cali makes our commuting lifestyle that we had not doable sadly.  i was doing boston-london and it was MUCH easier

hang in there kid.

and paid vakay isn't that bad when it's part of the package.  here i feel like i rob the company with 25 paid days off a year!