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"So... how's married life?"
« on: July 27, 2006, 04:18:56 PM »
This may not belong in this area, so please move it if I have not properly placed this topic.  I was curious if anyone had a good answer to, "So, how's married life?"  I've been married recently, which is really great, but I don't really feel all that different.  We just went back on with our life after applying in person for my FLR.  I should also mention, it hasn't even been a month since we were married.  I feel bad telling people that I don't feel any different, because most of those who ask are close friends or relatives.  They seem genuinely disappointed that all I will say is that I don't feel different, but I'm very happy to be with dh.  I'm just struggling with what else to say, because it's the truth.  We are both so happy to be finally living in the same place, and that we are included in each other's day to day life, but I know that for me at least, I still feel like me, just a much happier version.  Thanks for listening and in advance for any advice.


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #1 on: July 27, 2006, 04:31:49 PM »
Well, it may not feel different from before, but I'm assuming that you love your live right now (at least the relationship part).  Why not just tell them that you love married life?  I used to get the question "How are you adjusting to married life?".  I didn't feel that there was any adjustment to be made.  So I'd just say I was adjusting great.  I think the only one that really requires you to say married life is a lot like unmarried life, is if someone asks you how different it feels now that you're married. 


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #2 on: July 27, 2006, 04:34:40 PM »
I've been getting this too, we were married on June 10th. TBH married life is the same because we're still in an LDR (like we have been for the past almost 8 years since meeting online). So I say "its the same" maybe it'll change once I move over in a few weeks. I agree with Carrie, since  you're happy just say "its great" nothing else has to be said  ;)
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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #3 on: July 27, 2006, 04:37:26 PM »
Why not just say, "We are so both happy to finally be living in the same place! Married life is great, it makes me feel like me only happier! We love being able to be included in each other's day to day lives - it is really special."


Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #4 on: July 27, 2006, 05:08:11 PM »
These are some good ideas.  After posting this, I had to walk to the store, and I thought about it.  Really, I didn't want to explain about my ldr to people, so most didn't know something was going on until they got wedding invitations.  Probably a bad way to do things, but none the less, I think they are just looking for a way to ask me all about it.  Still, explaining that we are enjoying being together might help both aspects of the question.  Thanks for the good ideas!  Any other ones, are welcome!   :)


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #5 on: July 27, 2006, 06:20:04 PM »
it won't end here, you'll have a baby and they'll all be asking "So.....enjoying being  a mum?"


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #6 on: July 27, 2006, 10:12:01 PM »
These are some good ideas.  After posting this, I had to walk to the store, and I thought about it.  Really, I didn't want to explain about my ldr to people, so most didn't know something was going on until they got wedding invitations.  Probably a bad way to do things, but none the less, I think they are just looking for a way to ask me all about it.  Still, explaining that we are enjoying being together might help both aspects of the question.  Thanks for the good ideas!  Any other ones, are welcome!   :)

That's funny about not wanting to explain the LDR. I hate that too...once everyone know I was going out with/engaged to/married to a brit I got the "ooo how did you meet?!" Most of the time I was honest, and we were together for almost 8 years before we got married so by then everyone who got invited knew how we met...it is annoying though!
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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #7 on: July 28, 2006, 12:00:00 AM »
it won't end here, you'll have a baby and they'll all be asking "So.....enjoying being  a mum?"
Unless you decide to not have any kids.  Then they'll just ask when you're going to start having them and try to convince you that you'll change your mind if you say you don't want any!
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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #8 on: July 28, 2006, 08:11:51 AM »
  I was curious if anyone had a good answer to, "So, how's married life?" 

Just smile and say something like 'fine, thanks!'
No one is really asking you that because THEY WANT TO KNOW... they are just trying to make polite conversation.  :)


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #9 on: August 03, 2006, 06:20:41 PM »
I always say "perfect" when I'm asked that question.  There's really nothing to say to that other than.  "Great, good for you."  It keeps the questions to a minimum.
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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #10 on: August 25, 2006, 03:02:01 PM »
"The same but now with better jewellery." 

Candice - a girlfriend of a friend is doing the baby thing to me right now.  We don't want children and she just can't take that as an answer.  If I'm on the news for assault one day, this would be why!!


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #11 on: August 25, 2006, 03:22:00 PM »
I just answer with, "It's good, thanks." That's it!


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #12 on: August 25, 2006, 07:45:15 PM »
Larissa...it's not cool for her to do that to you...I'll stand up in court if you need!


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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #13 on: January 26, 2007, 03:12:10 AM »
Just smile and say something like 'fine, thanks!'
No one is really asking you that because THEY WANT TO KNOW... they are just trying to make polite conversation.  :)

Well.....when I ask people questions, i seriously want to know. :P ;)
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Re: "So... how's married life?"
« Reply #14 on: January 26, 2007, 04:58:33 AM »
You'll be one of the rare few, then.


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